akashalestat Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Each of us has a vision of love--for me, it was, is, to give and hopefullly to have it returned. Unfortunately, ultimaltely, this wasn't the case in my present relationship. Some of us, myself included, have tied love into anticipation, expectation, of emotions that trigger chemical reactions in our brain that make us feel alive...even though this may ultimately result in us banging our head perverbially head against the wall, over and over to achieve this... The way I interpret love is that if you have loved someone and contributed to their growth and they refuse or are so selfish to comply, or reciprocate, then, they have not grown from your presence, their loss, the pain from our investment comes from our souls investment in them, and their sheer inability to acknowledge it. You, and have I tried,or are trying, the fact of their insensitivity shows that they are not on the same, for lack of better words, soul level. All this despite the fact that they think they have control because we want to be with them. We want to fix them, help them, heal them, to raise them to our "soul level." The fact that we can't causes us pain, that is unreconizable, oe more so, by the way the other treats us... A perfect example is my retionship when I was in my 20's... For over 10 years she gave and gave, and I took and took because I thought I was better than her. The more she gave and gave, the more superior I thought I was to her. How untrue, but at the time, I felt entitled. As the relationship wore down, she trained me to think that I was entitled, thereby making me in my entitled mind think I was entitled to more, something bettter. This drove me away. She should have slapped me in my m-fying face, saying look, m-fer, wake up, look what I'm doing for you. But, instead, she continued the trend of the relationship, me using her, unknowingly, because she allowed me to abuse her givingness. This is unfortunate, but true of those who give, we feed into the addiction of those who are currently programmed to take. We must take stock of ourselves, and monitor ourselves. The biggest problem in giving is that we expect something in return. If we can give up the expection of receiving something in return that is half the battle. Super-big- Post-Note The ones that break our heart are the one that will make us stronger, we will move on to better situations, because we examine our souls within. Akashalestat
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I like you I'm a giver. I'm the nice one. I won't ever stop giving or being kind. I have a little rule. Allow a person to walk all over me once, having faith that they may learn something. Those who don't learn, won't receive the opportunity again.
Pantero Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Your disposition, while admirable and noble, can also be self-destructive. IMHO - Life is too short to deal with people who do not want to accomplish anything. As you've said: if they don't grow from your love - then it's their loss. Then, there are those who will love nearly unconditionally up until we've been wronged. And God help anyone who wrongs us. *devil horns*
rkman Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Then, there are those who will love nearly unconditionally up until we've been wronged. And God help anyone who wrongs us. *devil horns* Ahahahahah So true...so true
Author akashalestat Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Thank you for your insight into my souls worth. AkashaLestat.
beautifulearth83 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 good words. i think we give and give and it always comes back in some form or another. whether it's during or prior to the relationship. and after the relationship is over it's like your heart is slowly filling up again, and then it's just constipated with love that you wanna give!!
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