CONFUZED01 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Me and my ex broke up almost a week ago for the second time, all times he broke with me. We have been going out on and off for almost 5 years and throughout the relationship his ex of 5 years before me always try to be part of his life. When we got back together a year ago after we have broken up the first time he said that i was the one and he would do anything to get back with me, since i couldnt trust him at the time i told him not to talk to his ex. So then I moved in with him for about a year and a about 2 months ago he has been acting irritated and distant. I thought it was nothing, stupid me. Around feb, i was so content and trusted with him with all my heart i asked him to call his ex and say happy birthday, since she was soo miserable, i thought it would be a nice gesture since i had nothing to worry about, i was already living with him and all. They talked and thats was it, although after the fact they still talked as friends i was mad about it. So the week we actually broke up, i checked his voicemail and he ex left him a message saying " Hey bebeh..just calling you to say have a nice day at work" i confronted him and said that his ex always calls him that. To think after 5 years of not being with someone and they still call you that. UMm I dont think so. So then i was going to move back home for a couple of weeks for the summer anyways, he told me to bring my clothes with me. He said loves me but is not in love with me. He said he got so irritated with me and i nag alot. I brought my clothes home, but he said i can leave some of my clothes there, i do not why if he doesnt want to be with me. I saw him a few days ago because he dropped of my pet rabbit and i hugged him as a friend and he pushed his head away thinking i was going to kiss him, my picture is gone from his wallet also. How can someone do this after 5 long years? Do u thing him and his ex already started doing something behind my back? Am i in denial? what should I do to get him back?
pricillia Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 try to give it some time and regroup, you will figure things out. He told you that he was not in love with you that must hurt! I am sorry for that. Every relationship long and short is a learning experience, just take a step back and do not throw yourself at him. Why would you want to be with someone who was not in love with you?
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 If the man truly loves you, in teh most basic form he will appologize and walk out of your life for good. You deserve better than that. You may feel that you need him at this point, but fight to see otherwise. Be honest with yourself. Letting go is extremely diffiicult for people to deal with, but you will get through it. Just keep talking. In the meantime, take some time to be honest with yourself. Look at what you did wrong and what he did wrong. By what you did wrong I don't mean blame yourslef but be honest, and accept that you probably made some mistakes, perhaps by giving in too easily. Use this reflection to grow and make yourself a better person who will treat you with respect and dignity. Trust must be earned, you can't just give it away.
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