Hard to Figure Out

[Guest]

My situation is this I have been seperated from my wife for over a year we are not getting back together we were just waiting to sell our house to finalize the divorce she has been living with this guy for 10 months in my house with our 11 year old daughter. Around February 17th of this year Imet this woman who is 26 and I'm 42 but we hit if off great and some wonderful times the past 3.5 month and have went on a bunch of trips and hit it off great but last week she told me she handle the situation anymore the stress and drama is getting to her and she wasn't happy right now and what she said what drove her to this break up was mostly because of my ex wife harassing her calling her cell phone and hanging up over 75 times over 2 weeks which made us contact the police, and she would asked me all the time what my ex would say about her and I was foolish enough to keep telling her which was bad mistake on my part. Obviously my ex didn't approve of me dating her(even though she said shes happy and living with a guy isn't that unbelievable not that I would ever take her advice) But what's frustrating to me is I made my mind up I wasn't going to call her, text her, or email her unless she intiated it and in the past week she has emailed almost me everyday and even asked me waht was i was doing this weekend and when I told her I was going to this bar she said well we may go there too I thought that was odd because I know if it was the other way around I wouldn't want to be at the same place as her so ssure enough she showed up and I was talking to this friend(girl) who she knows and I don't think she likes to well and actually was talking about how I could be talking to her then she was talking to like every guy in the bar trying to make me jeolous after my friend left she continued this so I just left without saying goodbye. She called me the next day to tell me something and we talked for like 25 minutes much longer then we've talked in awhile and when we hung up she said called me if you want and I was like shaking my head so it's sunday afternoon and I haven't called her it just seems to me like she really doesn't want to let go. Any advice and this would be greatly appreciated I think the most important thing for me and I toild her this is that I get my divorced finalize which we are getting close now.

[JMV]

I've been doing some thinking and I wanted to add a few things about what I wrote first off I think she is totally right wth the fact that she can't deal with all this stress and drama right now I've dragged my feet with this divorce since we started dating and for no good reason so basically I've been giving her alot of lip service and shes right until I'm officially divorced she doesn't want involved and I can't fault her for that and I believe the best thing for me to do is resolve this and get this divorced finalized which I'm moving closer to doing that this is my main focus right now and I think that will impress her that I've taken action instead of all talk. Also I think instead of trying to be an as_hole and not respond to her emails I think I should just be nice and be a friend to her which is what she asked for now. Any comments would be appreicated