Pink Amulet Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 What lengths should we go to, to keep ourselves away from a toxic man/women, and a toxic relationship? Some possible strategies... -Sing along loudly to songs such as 'since you've been gone', and 'I will survive' while driving anywhere? Avoiding the radio so as to not find yourself in tears when Aerosmith starts screaming 'I don't want to miss thing' or Leanne Rhymes asks 'How do I live without you'? -Destroy all evidence that he/she existed. Perhaps even performing some kind of voodoo ritual with candles and sage to rid your mind of thoughts of them (and perhaps rid them of ever achieving eternal happiness?) -Distract yourself with friends, and the social scene, and perhaps an abundance of alcohol and uppers! -Change your locks, change your number, perhaps even change your name?! -Go through old saved emails, word documents, and letter draws, discarding all of the poems and letters where he/she sounded oh-so-in-love and you seemed sickeningly happy? -Sit down with a blank mind, a blank sheet of paper and a strong cup of coffee before reliving all of the bulls***, and emotional torment you had sustained throughout the relationship. Remembering the specifics, the words he/she used/the tone may also help? -Start screwing someone else? This however is a highly debatable technique as there is a high possibilty the person may be uglier and or worse in bed than your ex promoting feelings of 'f***. I have really f***ed up big time' and could lead to a desire to either go back to the relationship for fear of never achieving orgasm again, or decreeing eternal celibacy. -Break in to his/her house stealing all valuable posessions before pawning it all and buying a plane ticket to Nicaragua to help starving orphans and also conveniently placing a sea, not to mention limited communication outlets between you and him/her? -If all else fails I suppose a classy murder/suicide is also a viable option. Perhaps not... So, does anyone else have any suggestions or tips to share to avoid picking up that phone?
NightsEcho Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Hey, I went through a bad break up with a girl of 3 1/2 years. I found your post really reminding me of myself and the toxic people that we go out of our way to hold on to. You seem like a beautiful girl with true feelings and a good head on you. The only thing I can suggest is you keep your head up through all this, your gonna come out okay. NE
MTK Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Stay away from alcohol. More or less, you've got a better chance to drunk dial her number and be a moron. 2nd, it's a depressant -not good after a breakup. Get a new girl/guy, and drink casually then, but not by yourself or still in healing mode. Maybe I'm missing something, but I agree with Eric Cartman on South Park when he says, "Drugs suck because hippies do drugs, and hippies suck.
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Haha, well I am a bit of a goodie goodie so I don't drink, I have never smoked and I have certainly never done drugs. It was merely just a suggestion, haha/
PeanutHead88 Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Changing your name? lol now you shoulden't change your identity ! hahaha but yeah those are very helpful, but thats only if the person is truely ready to move on Some wait for hope leaving all bridges open , I hate toxic relationships, there very well toxic and crazy!!
Schn00ginz Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 my short term solution for my sorrows is smoke weed and hang out with friends. smoking is great because it eases your sorrows without leading to any "drunk dialing" and other "i wish i didn't do that" activities
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 LOL wow what started as a bit of a joke has taken an interesting turn I must say...
rkman Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 It's simple to say but difficult to enforce. You and only you are in control of your future. There are external factors but every decision you makes ultimately dictates where life takes you. 1) Realize this 2) Accept this 3) Repeat it to yourself "I am in control and I want to be in control" It will not only make you feel better, it will make see that you indeed have accountability. The best way to start, is to stop checking if they called, if they wrote, stop checking at all. Do so, by tellign yourself "I am in control, and by realizing so I know that I don't want to see. As soon as I give in, I will lose that control. I WANT TO REMAIN IN CONTROL."
St Thomas Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I wouldn't qualify myself as a pot or coke head. Sometimes, beeing in a different state of mind and listening to Bob Marley can help you figuring out what was directly in you face before your ex left. Usefull
Guest Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 This is what I do. I write letters and poetry and send them to the guy. I spill my guts out until ad after him not responding , I start hating him and resenting my situation and so I move on. You have to hit the bottom to bounce back.
Outcast Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 -Sit down with a blank mind, a blank sheet of paper and a strong cup of coffee before reliving all of the bulls***, and emotional torment you had sustained throughout the relationship. Remembering the specifics, the words he/she used/the tone may also help? The List. A vital tool in shedding oneself of baggage. Carry copies with you. Whenever you start mooning about 'the good times' (ugh), haul out that list and read it top to bottom as many times as you need to to remember what it was REALLY like and why you're much better without the jerk. You have to do this until the physical cravings wear off, which can take some time. I think it was three months or so for me last time. Couldn't believe my body was wanting what caused the rest of me such grief. I told it to go to hell LOL
luvtoto Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 This is what I do. I write letters and poetry and send them to the guy. I spill my guts out until ad after him not responding , I start hating him and resenting my situation and so I move on. You have to hit the bottom to bounce back. Wouldn't you like to move on without disrespecting yourself in the process? My motto in life is to never let 'em see you sweat! Takes alot of discipline though, but it can be done.
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