Guest Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I wonder if after the divorce, you can honestly be someone other than the other woman and he can be anyone other than a cheater........thoughts?
movinon05 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Well that depends. Are you talking about still seeing each other after the divorce? Or just being labeled?
lovernotafighter Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 me and my (hopfully ex)MM as much as we get along and things we did discuss what would happen to us in a real relationship..and he said it not me, that we would never be able trust each other completely because of how we are now. but though I disagreed, the truth is he was right,I'd never trust him. he has told me way to much about his past and I would always be wondering and so would he.
alfagrl Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I know a guy who is a serial cheat. He cheated on his past gf's. He thought he was ready to settle down and he got married. Only to cheat on her twice. the first affair was before the wedding & resulted in a child, but was forgiven. The second affair was the final straw for the wife. To his dismay, she divorced him and and soon after he married affair #2. I suspect he is up to his old ways or soon will be. I Don't believe you can have a true relationship build on deception and lies. but rthen again what do I know they have been married for almost 2yrs.
Jessie61 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 My knowledge on this matter is very limited. I only know of one couple who started off in an affair situation. He left the W for the OW. First "offence". He is still with OW and they are very happy together. No repeat "offence" since then. He would tell me if there had been, because we're best friends.
stillhere Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I guess it is possible, but there are probably a few factors that have to be played in. Like, has there been other A's in the past, or was that his first (or her first). I trust my MM more than anyone i know, but he has a hard time trusting me because i'm single and can do as i please, and he would have no clue about what i'm doing. We just had this talk the other day. He is always worried about all the attention i get from other guys and he says that "everyone wants you", obviously he's embellishing, but i knew what he meant. I told him that if i could tell everyone that we were together, i guarantee you all that attention would stop. But that can't happen. I do tell everyone that i have a BF, they just don't know who. So yeah, it is possible, but usually, because of the original circumstances, it probably won't work.
SadGreenEyes Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Are you absolutely certain he is getting divorced?? I was involved with a MM who promised me that his marriage was over and separation and divorce were inevitable. After 2 yrs of having an EMA, he never left her, in fact I came to learn that he was lying about even sharing the same bed with his wife. 2 1/2 years later, they are still together, although I hear miserable. Heard thru the grape vine that he actually thinks she is having an affair and is pissed. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. Good Luck
ridingthebulls Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 but rthen again what do I know they have been married for almost 2yrs. Yeah, probably because she either accepts it or remains oblivious to his ways.
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