Guest Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 My b/f and i were at his apartment last night. (Together for a year) We were in his bedroom and his phone rang indicating a text message. It was almost 2 am. He goes to the other room to get his phone and said it was his sister. He stays there for a minute or two and i guess he called her. He comes to the bedroom by the window to get better reception to speak. His apartment does not give good reception. The girl is talking about a guy and then he said " Did you tell your mom?" If it was his sister, why would he refer to their mom as her mom. It's not his step sister or anything. I said that to him when he was done talking. He said his sis was having a guy a problem(she is older than him--i think 35 or something)Then he said:LOOK--the text is from her and who he spoke to was her. He asked "i never did that" and obviously my answer was no. He probably knew what i was thinking when he said look who it says its from--if a person is sneaky enough, they can easily just change the name to someone else. He said call the number then. I didn't call. Does it sound weird that he said your mom when it is his mom as well or am i being too suspicious and just overanalyzing. Was he just hoping or figured i wouldnt call or should i trust it was his sister. I am tempted to copy down the number and see if it is her. Would anyone else have noticed this when he said it? I couldn't help but say something to him and now having a hard time deciding to let it go or not. The thing is--if it was another girl and she is talking about a guy problem--that means they have developed some sort of closeness and he tells me he rarely even talks to other woman. It's for a girl to text a guy at 2am about a guy problem that wasn't that serious--something somewhat funny. Meaning--maybe it was more than likely his sister?
Buttaflyy Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Sounds weird for him to refer to his own mom as "your" mom talking to his sister. (Although my siblings and I do this sometimes if we're angry with my mother) I think he knew you wouldnt call and check up. Not that you should have. Maybe just watch a little more closely to find out if he's talking to someone else. Are you close with his sister that you could maybe mention it to her?
Outcast Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Honestly. Chill. Yes, you are paranoid and then some. He's grown and living away from 'mom' - he doesn't necessarily think of her as his mommy night and day. He showed you the phone AND offered for you to call - let it rest!!!!
DarkDwarf Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I would be concerned if I were you. I wouldn't go behind his back though. just ask him about it. Up front. If he gets offensive then myabe you shouldn't be with him.
BeFree Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Poor guy. Cut him some slack. At 2 am I can't remember my mom's name. He was probably tired. BTW, men hate paranoid girls. I recomend that you chill.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Oh my goodness sweetheart, calm down!! First of all you make no sense about him showing you the number. What do you mean switch the names around? How can you do that? If you saw her number then it was her. Why would he be "sneaky" and talk to a girl right in front of you? That isn't very sneaky. I would think if he wanted to talk to another women he would it behind your back. So what if he has female friends? Is he not "allowed"? You do sound extremely paranoid. If you are that worried, casually mention it to his sister and see if she remembers calling him at 2 am one night.
yogi-mon Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 sounds like hes got one on the side I mean, who calls there brother at 2 AM?? meh, he's doing someone. just check his text messages, or call list.. guys always forget to delete the calls in-bound/out-bound
Guest Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 That's kind of weird for him to be doing this girl when she is talking about another guy..... Anyway--doing something behind my back isn't something allowed especially when he tells me rarely speaks to any women and he told me from the beginning he speaks to only two once in awhile. What I meany by changing it around is---changing the name..putting his sis's name under the number so i do not think its another girl he is talking but instead his sister. It's a trick i know many have used-not against me--but i think a lot know to do this if they want to avoid a conflict or avoid getting caught doing something. So yes--that is exactly what i thought when he said YOUR mom. Even though he showed me the name, that meant nothing which is why he probably said call the number then. I really think the only way for me to get over this is to get the number. I rarely see his sister so i can't just wait around to mention guys and i can't knock on her door and ask her if this is true.
lovernotafighter Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Ive done that dozens of times..talking to my sister or something..I'll say "my mom" or "your mom" it's really not a big deal. and if it was another girl why would she choose him to talk to about another guy? come on now.
Guest Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 A good friend of mine said--ok lets say it was another girl and he doesnt want me to know he is keeping this girls number under his sis's name obviously because he wants to talk to her in secret or not get me jealous--so she said..why on earth would he choose to call her back after receiving the text. Even if he said in the other room i am with my g/f as a warning and then came to the bedroom with me to talk--it would have made things so much easier if he showed me the text and just said i will give her a call tomorrow and see whats up. Why would go through the effort to call her when i am there when he can talk more openly in private when i am not around. Its not like this girl called and he had no choice but to pick up the phone because i was there. What does everyone think?
Outcast Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I think you should LET IT GO!!!!! Honestly, you are wasting far too much of your brain and life over nothing.
Buttaflyy Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Noone else would have thought the same way i did? Initially maybe. But I think you need to weigh your relationship on a scale as a hole. Has he given you any other reasons to doubt his faithfullness to you? I think this is too small of an incident in itself to get worked up over. His actions following is what is important. Do you suspect him of cheating on you for any other reasons than this?? Being skeptical is one thing. Don't let it turn into paranoia.
Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Honestly. Chill. Yes, you are paranoid and then some. He's grown and living away from 'mom' - he doesn't necessarily think of her as his mommy night and day. He showed you the phone AND offered for you to call - let it rest!!!! What he said! I feel sorry for your guy!
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