joel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 any of you guys ever met any girls off the net. wow so far i met like 5 but not all at once. last 2 where just complete wackos. my question is this:where do u these days find a decent , non whorish, non-slept with like 20 guys, had not had one nighters and had not had a lot of guys who were just one nighters. so far girls off the net have been like this, not sure to belive what they say or not-but hey its possible right. funny thing was these girl were dressed normallly -hoody, jeans-nothing u think in ur mind they'll be whorish,but for some reason when we decided to go out-coffee and walk around the malls they tell me this somewere in the converation. also how can u tell from a decent good giurl from a girl that been around the block with 20 or more guys. dress wise you can't-last 2 girl dressed like preppys and so non whorish. till you chat and talk with em you'll never now and what if they never tell ya. later on she becomes ur gf and she tells u this -ahhh sick. i think it sick and gross that any girl or worse if she becomes my gf who has been with so many men. is this normal or have i been enslaved into sheltered family life which i have been. yea these girl were asian(one chinese cbc, other japanese) too -you think with the strict upbringing of asian parents that the girl be more consverative,but ah no. oh ya get this age wise-one was only 19 and the other turning 21 -yea you think they'll be more innocent since they're so young right-ah think not. crazy stuff man i'm in my mid 20's inexp with girls and dating.
Road Rage Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Well, you have to give these girls credit for being honest. They are not whorish, as you say. They are simply young women with different values than you. Surprising they should be up front about this so soon. But, you should put in your online ads or in chatroom conversation, however you met them, that you are looking for virgins or near virgins only. So, in a way, you have not been honest with them perhaps. At any rate, it is sad to have such a negative opinion of those you have met based on sexual conduct.
allina Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 You do sound sheltered, and calling a woman whorish because of her past is rude. Maybe specify that you don't have much experiance and want someone in a similar situation. Also if you are in your mid-20s you will enjoy a real date with a woman in her mid 20s more than going to the mall w/ a 19 yar old. Good luck.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Ah jeez. Yet another thread about the sexuality and promiscuity of a women... (funny, I have yet to read one about a man) First of all, those girls were stipid to tell you how many guys they had been with because it is simply none of your business. If you are wanting a virgin, then how about u put that on ur profile so as not to confuse the girls that might actually really like you, you know, the whorish ones. If your really going to be that superficial, then maybe you should just get a dog instead, or maybe a manequin There is so much more to a women than how many sexual partners shes had in her past. I understand if you don't want a girl that may have a bad reputation or could have an STD, but if there is nothing else you don't like about her than the fact that shes had more sexual partners that you would want her to have, then its a dumb reason to rule her out
allina Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 If your really going to be that superficial, then maybe you should just get a dog instead But only a virgin dog, not a whorish one, because eww thats like totally gross
Tim'sAngel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 But only a virgin dog, not a whorish one, because eww thats like totally gross :lmao: I'd trade a "whorish" girl for a bitch any day
Fun2BMe Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Maybe you should place an ad in a nuns dating site if there is one? I bet even there you might not find that they are all virgins despite their garb. Who are you to call sexually active women whores??? Like the other person said, make sure you spell out in your ad that you only want virgins or at max they have been with one maybe two guys. It's not fair for you not to specify your preference and then once they open up to you, for you to judge them as a whore and write them off. That is selfish and stupid. Also, add in your ad that you yourself are inexperienced sexually because a woman might feel judged to be wtih someone like you, rightfully so based on your actions. You can't relate to normal people who are sexually active without seeing them as something being wrong with them. One other thing is to not judge people based on their dress. Sometimes I dress "slutty" or sexy because it makes me feel feminine. It doesn't mean I go around sleeping with every man who dates me. Sometimes I dress "preppy". So what how someone dresses. You sound like you are 2 years old. Do you also determine whether or not someone has an STD by how they 'look'? Start looking in the mirror at how sheltered and closed minded and judgemental you yourself are before pointing your finger at others. you think with the strict upbringing of asian parents that the girl be more consverative,but ah no. You obviousy think that your strict conservative upbringing has made you a better person than other people. I think it has made you into a closed minded, miserable, mentally stunted, condescending and judgemental piece of work.
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HokeyReligions Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I don't think you are being rude - those are your values and don't let anyone who makes fun of you get to you. There are girls out there with the same values -- you just haven't met them yet. Sex is natural and nothing to be ashamed of - neither is respecting oneself to the extent that they wish to save themselves for marriage or for someone they truly are in love with. Many people are pressured into having sex at an early age and/or with multiple partners because of just such ridicule as you have received here. But many people are not. Look for girls with similar interests as you -- who will enjoy doing the same things that you enjoy. Don't judge them by what they wear. You will probably date a lot of girls and women who you will find out during the course of dating that have dissimilar values - don't give your heart away too fast. You will know when the girl is right for you. You may not fall for a virgin, but you will find a girl who hasn't just slept-around for the sake of sexual fullfilment - maybe the girl you fall for will have had a relationship before and has decided to wait until she's in love and loved and you will respect her for that and that respect and love you have for her will make you realize that a previous sexual partner doesn't hurt you. There are also still virgins out there so don't give up.
pricillia Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 TY alpaha male but the original avatar was better much cuter!
allina Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 TY alpaha male but the original avatar was better much cuter! Awwwww LS crush!!
Hitman10000 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 You do sound sheltered, and calling a woman whorish because of her past is rude. Maybe specify that you don't have much experiance and want someone in a similar situation. Also if you are in your mid-20s you will enjoy a real date with a woman in her mid 20s more than going to the mall w/ a 19 yar old. Good luck. I'm in my mid 20s+ dating a girl who is 20. She's not the mall type, very fun and FUNNY to talk and be around though. I love being the stable and wise one while she's all crazy. I think she digs it too. She pretends to not be interested too over the phone or email but in person she's all wild, it's so funny. Anyways dude, you either attract a girl that is like you (like me) or supplements your personality. In my experience, those are the types you should look and like it or not, it's really none of your business if a girl is "whoring" around, you just got to date a real girl that supplements your own personality rather, cause if you're getting "whorish" type of girls, seems like you're doing a little bit of "whorish" behavior by aimlessly picking any girl.
alphamale Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 You will probably date a lot of girls There are also still virgins out there so don't give up. where? adult virgins?
Fun2BMe Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Try the library. Or a Church. I used to be a librarian and according to the OP would be considered a 'whore' I don't think people who frequent the library have any less amount of sex than people who frequent anywhere else for that matter. They also go to clubs, have sexual relationships and eat the same foods as the rest of the dirty sexed population. With all the sex scandals in the church, I doubt that's a good choice to go to either. He could be posting the same things 20 years from now - no girl is good enough to have sex with him, unless he finds a similarly self-righteous girl who is better than all the rest of us damaged whores, I mean goods.
ausboy06 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Just have to put in my two cents here. I don't think there is anything all wrong with still being a virgin later in life. Some people have decided that, for them, sex is something that is such an incredibly special thing that they only want to share it with one person within the context of marriage. Is there anything wrong with such a person wanting to meet someone who has also waited for them? I think not. Perhaps it is hard for them to find such a person in this day and age, but that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them. In fact its rather fine and noble for someone like this to hold onto their values even in a world that rubbishes them for doing so.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Just have to put in my two cents here. I don't think there is anything all wrong with still being a virgin later in life. Some people have decided that, for them, sex is something that is such an incredibly special thing that they only want to share it with one person within the context of marriage. Is there anything wrong with such a person wanting to meet someone who has also waited for them? I think not. Perhaps it is hard for them to find such a person in this day and age, but that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them. In fact its rather fine and noble for someone like this to hold onto their values even in a world that rubbishes them for doing so. The point isn't so much that we care if he is a virgin or not, or he wants a virgin or not. That is a preference and there is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is that he is using offensive name calling like "whore" and is judging women by their sexual past. There are some ex "whores" or as I like to call them experienced women who have gone on to become preachers and preachers wives, does that mean their still "whores" Sometimes you people just miss everything!! I would never bash someone who wants to find another as himself, someone who is saving their bodies for the person they really care about. What I will get upset about is all these offensive posts lately about men calling women who have had a more experienced past as themselves "whores". It is rude and lacking tact!! Does that mean I can call you a prude? Honestly, I really believe its an ego thing. i'm in my mid 20's inexp with girls and dating. You sound it
ausboy06 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Honestly, I really believe its an ego thing. What do you mean that its an ego thing?
Walk Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I think Tim'sAngel is right. Instead of this guy attempting to understand why he abhor's these women so much, he reduces it to name calling. I think it threatens his manhood that these women might look at him and realize he sucks in bed, or that they might think he has a small penis. His self-esteem is so small that he imagines that women with some experience will laugh at his feeble attempts at intercourse. He probably feels that if he gets a woman who's had less sex than him, then he won't have to be perform well in order to impress her. But he's finding it hard to find a woman who's had less then two partners in her life, so he keeps looking for younger and younger woman to date. Only to find out that everyone he meets has had more sex then he has. Which in turn causes him to feel even less of a man. So he calls these women whores, while secretly admiring the men who bagged them. Wishing he could be like them, but not having the confidence to pull it off. Then again, I could be wrong. Maybe he just wants someone who's values and upbringing are more like his own. But I don't think he'd be so vehement about the others if he didn't harbor some kind of resentment toward them. They didn't do anything against him. So why would he hate them so much unless it was because they made him feel like less of a man?
catgirl1927 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 If someone truly values sex as something sacred, and wants someone who is a virgin, there are ways to find someone like that. I would think church groups would be a really good place to start, many churches have dating support groups and things like that so you can hook up with someone with the same values you have. It's true, though, that judging everyone who is different from you as a "whore" and somehow lesser than you makes me think your "values" are really more about your ego than anything else. You sound like someone who wants a woman who doesn't know what good sex is, so you don't have to worry about falling short. (excuse the pun) It could be either situation, perhaps he's just immature and doesn't know how to express himself.
alphamale Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 many churches have dating support groups yeah CG1927...and most of the members are L-O-S-E-R-S
catgirl1927 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 yeah CG1927...and most of the members are L-O-S-E-R-S I wouldn't know, I stay away from stuff like that... I met my BF at a bar.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 What do you mean that its an ego thing? It's imtimidating to sleep with an experienced women when you don't have any
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