Stephanieluvshailey Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Well I don't know where to start. I was with my ex for 5 years since i was 15. I moved in with him when i was 16. I'm 20 know and he's 24. I thought we were going to be together forever. We were both heavily into meth and I think thats what kept us together. We had a baby. Shes two now and I haven't done drugs for about 6 months. When I stopped using drugs everything changed. I don't understand why he still wants to use drugs. I see him almost everyday on my way to school driving around in the streets with his new girlfriend who just turned 18 and I guess is his new drug buddy. It hurts me so bad to see him with her because we were so close and he used to love our baby so much. It seems like he forgot about his family. I don't even think he cares about us at all. I will always love him but how do I get over him????????
Tim'sAngel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Well I don't know where to start. I was with my ex for 5 years since i was 15. I moved in with him when i was 16. I'm 20 know and he's 24. I thought we were going to be together forever. We were both heavily into meth and I think thats what kept us together. We had a baby. Shes two now and I haven't done drugs for about 6 months. I'm sorry, but that is so sad. I hate seeing innocent children brought into a home with drug problems. When I stopped using drugs everything changed. I don't understand why he still wants to use drugs. I see him almost everyday on my way to school driving around in the streets with his new girlfriend who just turned 18 and I guess is his new drug buddy. It hurts me so bad to see him with her because we were so close and he used to love our baby so much. It seems like he forgot about his family. I don't even think he cares about us at all. I will always love him but how do I get over him???????? I think you answered yourself in your post. The meth kept you together and now that your clean and drug free he still wants to stay a loser and misery loves company. Some people choose to wallow in their own filth for the rest of their lives and noone can change that. All I can say is keep him far away from your daughter!! Do you want her to grow up around drugs?? Being that she's two, I'm guessing shes already been around it quite alot and seen alot of things her little precious eyes shouldn't have seen. I really hate to put it this way, but I have my doubts you stopped using competely because if you had, you would know from your own experience with meth people who use it are not capable of thinking clearly. For a short period of time I was around people who used it. I was disgusted at what I saw. It makes them so irrational and not capable of making clear headed decisions. Do you have drug free family members that will take you in? Or maybe close friends? I suggest to get away from that area. Especially if it is a place where alot of people are using, and unless I'm wrong thats what it sounds like. I can only really feel sorry for the little girl in this situation. I really hope you do the best thing for her and get her out of there!! About getting over your ex, just look at him for what he is!! He chose drugs over his family!! You are obviously wanting to do the right thing in wanting to be drug free and set a good example for your daughter. You are going to have to be the parent that steps up and does whatever needs to be done to protect her and teaches her values since her father obviously is more concerned about his addiction. Dont take what he does personally, his mind is controled by something very ugly. I know its hard, a break up is never easy. I don't know if you are still in contact with him or if he comes to see his daughter, but I would really cut off all contact with him that you can. Hopefully one day he will see the light and decide to clean his life up, but until then, all you can do is move on and look for better things. There are men out there that despise drugs and will be a good husband to you and a terrific father figure for your daughter! I found one of those men, and I couldn't be happier! They do exist!! Good luck!
Brittanyjean06 Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Wow and you have a kid with this man? and he still uses? Well than your only the lucky one to have your baby away from that, you've stopped using and I hope you stop using. I know some times age doesn't matter but in this case hes simply prying on young people who fit is " maturity level" Thats sick and I'm sure your hurting right now, and having a baby only makes the hurt more! but time fades everything, I've realized that..things that are not meant to be...Won't be, and just because you have a kid together, doesn't meen you two have to be together, hes 24 and still doing drugs...You can't help him, and you don't want to...let him see on his own time the wrong he is doing, he might be happy now, but he won't for long, Do the best you can for your baby, and try not to worry about him, shes the one of importance now:)
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