DarkDwarf Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I started dating this girl, but I think our relationship is questionable. I might as well start at the begining. We went to the mall with a bunch of friends. I didn't really like her at all, but I was looking because I had given up on the girl I had been previously been going for. At first we all ate. I was sitting almost across from her, but we didn't talk much. Then we headed out of the restaurant and walked down the street/ sidewalk (It was a outdoor mall). Lauren (the girl) and I went into Starbucks to get something. Nobody else did. We were standing and ordering. We were flirting a little. I thought about buying her drink, but I decided against it. After the whole group talked for a whil we went in to see the movie. (The Breakup. Worst Movie Ever). There weren't a lot of people inside the theater, so everyone headed up to the top. I originally sat down a row below everyone, but I was forced to move up by my friends. I ended up sitting next to Lauren. We ended up talking throughout the entire movie. At first we talked about how she liked my best friend, Luke, who was also in the group. Then we talked about everything else. From Designer Purses to the Cheesecake Factory in Chicago to her Ballet School. We made fun of the movie. At one point I went down to the bathroom and Luke followed me. he asked me if I liked her and I said I guess. He encouraged me to ask her out. I went back to the movie and we talked again. At one point she moved over to talk to Luke and I thought they were flirting so I figured my chances were up. Luke texted me and said that she liked me. (Crazy I know). I teased her for a little big and she laughed and then elbowed me. I put my arm on the cup holder. She put her arm on top of mine. I really should have grabbed her hand, but I didn't want to impose. The movie ended and we walked out of the theater. Our parents were outside and I asked if she wanted to go to a movie sometime soon. (School Just Ended). She said she didn't know, but she would talk to me at the final graduation ceremony that night. That Night she said yes. She could, but she had to bring some friends along. That was no problem to me. (I go to a prep school and the parents are very protective, but I cant blame them. I don't know how hard it is). Throughout the weekend we talked and IMed a lot, but I am having some doubts. (I really like her, but im not so sure if it goes both ways) Doubts 1. I think she still might like Luke. Maybe its natural to feel threatened. (Luke doesn't like her.) I have nothing to prove this point though. 2. Maybe I acted differently at the movie. I don't think so, but it is a possibility. I think what I really need is some reassurance. (Spelled Correctly?) Im going to see her at a party and I haven't done a lot of flirting recently so I could use some tips. Note: Sorry about the spelling and grammer. Typed it up real fast.
Walk Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I would say from what you described in your post that she does like you. Just be yourself, and if you feel like holding her hand then do so. Your first feeling is usually the correct one, and we tend to second guess ourselves and not act if we don't take steps right away. Try to have a good time and keep it light and fun.
Author DarkDwarf Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 Thanks... Having someone reassure me really helps. Its just the last relationship i was in... i got used... Thank You.
Hitman10000 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Not sure about Walk's advice, but I'm going to tell you something. When a girl keeps bringing "her friends" along for "your date" it means she is uncomfortable with you. That's FINE for the FIRST time, but every consecutive time or the second time she does it, it isn't that great. It's FINE if she was meeting up with her friends for a little while then she's off with you , one on one.. That's how you get to know each other. And even if she liked you, she's insecure and immature to even date you. You say you got a "feeling" she's not into you, that's called "gut feeling" the gut NEVER lies when you know you don't dig a girl or when you sense the girl isn't that into you. The gut NEVER lies! She may talk to you, but that means nothing. Girls love to talk. The biggest warning sign you gave me that she wasn't into you was when SHE initiated physical touching, that is NEVER good in my book. It's okay if she's doing that and asking about the real you, but if she's doing that early in the game, well unlike Walk's sympathetic feminine answer, I will tell you this: She's not into you. Cut your losses and cut all contact with her, salvage any respect for yourself from turning into one of her girlfriends.
Author DarkDwarf Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 Wow... that was amazingly good advice and im seriously thinking about it. Jeez, thats a punch in the face though. I'm going to see her Tuesday(party) and I'll see how it goes.
Author DarkDwarf Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 I just thought about it for a couple minutes. If I figure out that she does like me after I break up with her then im screwed. I might get f***ed on this one, but im giving it a shot. At least for the time being.
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