timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I've come to the conclusion that I'm attracted to women who want to make all the decisions in a relationship. I don't want the responsibility of leadership in a relationship. I don't want the responsibility of leadership in my workplace. I've turned down promotions because I didn't want the responsibility and headaches of being a manager. Some would say that a woman won't respect me if I let her make all the decisions. That may be so but I've already lost respect for myself over the years so it doesn't matter to me whether she respects me or not. What matters is that she is willing to be with me. I'm not very picky when it comes to choosing women. The only thing I want is a woman who will take me in. I'll date just about anybody. Anything is better than being alone even if I have to comrpomise my self respect. There are more important things to me right now than keeping my self respect. I've tried respecting myself and it is NOT rewarding at all.
Sand&Water Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 That is a sad post. It's a low way to absorb yourself, and women in general. I'm telling you now - you're setting yourself up for disappointment. To be honest, without destroying your ego here - but of course, it's impossible at this stage - you'll not survive and tell the tale. A woman will not be with a guy, that considerably acts selfish. What you're asking for is selfish. You can't love a woman, without loving yourself first. You can't live with a woman, without taking hold of some resposibilities. You can't show/share respect and romance with a woman, without understanding your own/her needs. Love is a reflection of who you are. It requires participation of both parties. You must be able to give love, in order to expect love from your partner. You're selling yourself short. A woman will drop you within a minute. Re-evaluate your approach.
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 That is a sad post. It's a low way to absorb yourself, and women in general. I'm telling you now - you're setting yourself up for disappointment. To be honest, without destroying your ego here - but of course, it's impossible at this stage - you'll not survive and tell the tale. A woman will not be with a guy, that considerably acts selfish. What you're asking for is selfish. You can't love a woman, without loving yourself first. You can't live with a woman, without taking hold of some resposibilities. You can't show/share respect and romance with a woman, without understanding your own/her needs. Love is a reflection of who you are. It requires participation of both parties. You must be able to give love, in order to expect love from your partner. You're selling yourself short. A woman will drop you within a minute. Re-evaluate your approach. If she's abusive in some way she won't drop me. Abusive women will take me in. I never want to live with a woman either. It all depends on how you define love. What I'm looking for may be love in my eyes but others will consider it abuse or something else. I have no desire to receive what society considers love.
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 I think now it's just a matter of finding a woman who has control issues herself. I will be the perfect candidate to feed off of her issues. I'd rather get punched in the chest than to be single. If that is what it's going to take then so be it. I just haven't found the right woman yet. I'm not going to conform to societal norms of roles for men vs. women just because that's what society says I should want. I don't want what society says I should want.
Love Hurts Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Self respect is the by-product of Love thyself. If you can not love yourself first.......... you can not respect yourself. You can not respect who you are or what you do. If you can not love yourself ,, how can love your neighbor? Love thy neighbor as you love yourself,,, does not apply here. Someone sold you short........... something happened along the way. You were not valued when you needed it. Or encouraged for who you are, just you being you. In our formative years that is so necessary to find self-worth. You wear the clothes someone else has made for you........ Guess what they don't fit. Take them off! There is someone that knows you are all that. You are more than you know or give yourself credit for. Someone that loves you every second of any given day. You may not know Him............ He knows you. Inside out, through and through. If you don't know Jesus, watch the Passion of the Christ. See what he did for you........... There is no greater love for you than a man lay down His life for you. You are special, You are loved, someone cares about you and you are never alone. What do you mean you want some female to take you in? Selling yourself short! Ummm lets see I could use a handyman around here, I'll feed you bread & water to keep you alive. Give you a curfew and you will sleep in the spare room at the end of the hall. I have the keys to your cell. Also let it be known your paycheck is no longer your own, I will cease all of your worldly possessions. See it? Come on,,, wake up... I am being blatently open with what a female could do to you in a sneaky way,, you in your state of mind. Be aware and Beware. You are so much more .......... If you throw yourself to the wolves ,,,,, and they are ferociously hungry......... You will be eaten alive. Being a leader starts with you first.............. if you can not lead yourself.. You will fall for anything and be lead anywhere. Get some morals, some standards by which you shall stand firm as a rock and not be moved. Go to church............. seek Gods plan for your life. If He is at the helm, you now have direction and purpose,,,, not just existing,, blowing in the wind. Ok you are more than you know and far from what you could be. Your life is valued if not by yourself,,,, then by God. He created you for a purpose,,,,,,,,,,,, I don't think it was to be eaten by wolves. Wake up! You Rrrr more than you know.
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 Self respect is the by-product of Love thyself. If you can not love yourself first.......... you can not respect yourself. You can not respect who you are or what you do. If you can not love yourself ,, how can love your neighbor? Love thy neighbor as you love yourself,,, does not apply here. Someone sold you short........... something happened along the way. You were not valued when you needed it. Or encouraged for who you are, just you being you. In our formative years that is so necessary to find self-worth. You wear the clothes someone else has made for you........ Guess what they don't fit. Take them off! There is someone that knows you are all that. You are more than you know or give yourself credit for. Someone that loves you every second of any given day. You may not know Him............ He knows you. Inside out, through and through. If you don't know Jesus, watch the Passion of the Christ. See what he did for you........... There is no greater love for you than a man lay down His life for you. You are special, You are loved, someone cares about you and you are never alone. What do you mean you want some female to take you in? Selling yourself short! Ummm lets see I could use a handyman around here, I'll feed you bread & water to keep you alive. Give you a curfew and you will sleep in the spare room at the end of the hall. I have the keys to your cell. Also let it be known your paycheck is no longer your own, I will cease all of your worldly possessions. See it? Come on,,, wake up... I am being blatently open with what a female could do to you in a sneaky way,, you in your state of mind. Be aware and Beware. You are so much more .......... If you throw yourself to the wolves ,,,,, and they are ferociously hungry......... You will be eaten alive. Being a leader starts with you first.............. if you can not lead yourself.. You will fall for anything and be lead anywhere. Get some morals, some standards by which you shall stand firm as a rock and not be moved. Go to church............. seek Gods plan for your life. If He is at the helm, you now have direction and purpose,,,, not just existing,, blowing in the wind. Ok you are more than you know and far from what you could be. Your life is valued if not by yourself,,,, then by God. He created you for a purpose,,,,,,,,,,,, I don't think it was to be eaten by wolves. Wake up! You Rrrr more than you know. No thanks. I'm not religious
Outcast Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Join the military. You'll get the abuse, you won't have to make your own decisions, and you'll get to live with lots of people so you won't be alone.
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