movinon05 Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Zara much love to you...I totally relate! as you know I have to go back to work with my exMM next week and like a fool I sent him a e-mail to cushion the blow...see he is going to be MY supervisor now and to be honest I'm scared s***less...well maybe not that extreme but it's also the week of my birthday and I just know he's going to ruin my day for me. Zara keep up the good fight..you have been doing great and are really a inspiration to many of us..if you want to email and t-off on me your more than welcome..vent away. just never let him see you sweat girl,your way WAY to good for him. Good luck LNF!! Stay strong and let us know how it goes. And Happy Birthday! (a lotta birthdays going on lately!)
lovernotafighter Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Good luck LNF!! Stay strong and let us know how it goes. And Happy Birthday! (a lotta birthdays going on lately!) thank you movingon..I'll be honest that e-mail I sent was already a huge mistake, I didn't let on I knew he was coming to my shift. so when he wrote me back ,and it's making me sick,he thinks he has me wrapped around his little fingers. he says he was honoring my wishes and will be on my shift next week so we can talk?? he talked like my e-mail got him to do it,even though he volunteered for this 2 weeks ago. thanks for the birthday wishes movin..it's gonna be a doesy!
movinon05 Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 These men can be soooooooo stupid and egocentric sometimes!! Bleck!
lovernotafighter Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I think me and zara's MM are sociopaths..I'm seriously at a loss and confused as hell...theres a sick part of me thats starting to want to hurt him..I hope I can get some control over myself soon.
movinon05 Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I think me and zara's MM are sociopaths..I'm seriously at a loss and confused as hell...theres a sick part of me thats starting to want to hurt him..I hope I can get some control over myself soon. Hey, I wouldn't blame either one of you for giving them a punch in the nose or a swift kick you know where!!! Exactly where they deserve to hurt!!
RealityCheck Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 You know Zara, having to go to work and tend to your duties and responsibilities of your position can be tiresome enough without having to deal with the added drama of your exMM. I would be looking for another contract elsewhere immediately, so that when the contract has been fulfilled in the current position, my ass would be out of there ...sweet...tweet!!! I do agree with the others where if a response to work related matters are at hand, I certainly would not be giving any "emotional response"! NO FREAKIN WAY!!! Do you have any idea of the satisfaction you are giving him! He is not worthy to know anything about you!
lovernotafighter Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 but finding a new job is easier said than done guys (gals :-)) and I know for me ,Id like to leave but why should I,I was there first..if any one should go it should be my douchbag MM.
RealityCheck Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 but finding a new job is easier said than done guys (gals :-)) and I know for me ,Id like to leave but why should I,I was there first..if any one should go it should be my douchbag MM. Finding new employment is tough, this is true! That is why I suggested "looking" For me, I just wouldn't work in that situation. That's got to be even more tougher than looking for a job!
whichwayisup Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Your mental health is alot more important than staying 'just because you were there first.' If you can rise above it, not care AT ALL, then stay. Just completely ignore him - But, if you can't, then do yourself a favour, start fresh. Find another job or ask for a transfer. Why make life harder for yourself if you can't cope working close by the MM.
Author zarathustra Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Hi Everyone, I just wanted to thank you all for your words of encouragement. I will hold onto your words and keep your advice close to heart. Yeah, its hard, but sometimes, I think that I make it a bit harder on myself just by doing things I shouldn't. I kept dreaming of my xMM this past weekend and in each of them we were either fighting or he was begging me for forgiveness. Its so weird because I can't seem to escape him. Well, today's no different. I have 3 or 4 meetings with him today so I'll be seeing him a whole lot today. *sigh* c'est la vie. In all honesty, now that its clear in my head the confines of our relationship and that its a boundary that I have set, I hope to continue trucking along here until I find my next assignment. I hope that now that you all have shown me the path I need to take, that my daily life here may not be as hard as it was in the past. I'm sure there are days when I'll write you all again and biatch about how hard it is and you all can set me straight again. In the mean time, I will continue whacking golf balls to keep my mind off him. I used to go to a tennis court - the balls were bigger, and so were the rackets!! (chopping wood and picturing my now ex's face worked wonders too.) Silk, that is HILARIOUS!!! I'm not good at racquet sports, but I'll go to the batting cages and do that with a baseball bat!!! LMAO!!!
lovernotafighter Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 hey zara good luck,I am dreading going in today...I dreamed a bunch about my MM aswell Grrrr. but we are tuff chicks!! we can rise above these MM's (I think we need a new term for them...because they ani't no sweet chocolatly candy) I know I'm gonna walk around like queen bee I am, even if my insides feel like crap...he'll never know it.
Diver012 Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Im in the same boat you are. Working with you EX sucks. Not fun at all...
Author zarathustra Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Im in the same boat you are. Working with you EX sucks. Not fun at all... Hey Diver... don't know how long you've been in your situation, but I want to let you know that it WILL get better. Its hard to believe, but it will. Its not easy and each day is hard, but it will feel less hard. I think that once you find your boundaries, then you'll start healing. Good luck and we're here for you to lend an ear!
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