AnnaJ Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 If you didn't read my other thread about my boyfriend being protective and obsessive, I'll give you an update. In the past he's shouted at me in the street infront of my friends after a dinner party, and never listens to me. I feel constantly put down and scared of him. Things haven't been going right, and I'm constantly to blame according to him. If its not something it's something else. He split with me today saying that I don't care and that I spend to much time at work. (I work for myself). I feel scared about what he will do next, especially if he's been drinking. Am I overeating. He's never threatened me or hit me, I'm just scared what he might do as he lives doors down. I haven't heard from him since lunchtime, apart from asking him to go for drive and just replied 'no'. We've been together for about 4 months What should I do?
Guest Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 run away. if he is this bad now it will only get worse. dont you feel you deserve to be treated better?
Outcast Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Ditch this loser. Call your local domestic violence center and ask for advice - tell them that he lives near you.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Oh my hell hunny!! My biggest question is why didn't you ditch him first??? Only 4 months and you put up with it? I can kinda sorta in a way see why someone would be attached if they had been together long, but you were barely with this guy!! My advice is stay away, far far away!! Don't let him batter you like that and treat like a worthless piece of s***!!
garnet Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Anna, I think I replied to your other thread, but I'll do so again. This is a classic case of an abusive person (I know from my own personal experience). Be glad that you are rid of him now rather than months or years from now when your self esteem is completely gone. Nothing good can come from a relationship with someone like this. NOTHING. Move on as quickly as possible and don't look back.
amaysngrace Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Yup, I agree with everyone else. Emotional abuse is domestic violence. How he treats you is every bit as bad as if he were beating you. Piss on him!!
Author AnnaJ Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 Thanks for your words. I'm tryin to get out but he'll shout at me, and I'll back down. I hate it, I'm constantly being accused of talking to other guys, and when I tell him I haven't (I honestly haven't) he tells me I'm making excuses. I feel like I'm loosing me, and constantly being called selfish. I know what makes sense, but I need the guts and strength to do it
Author AnnaJ Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 everytimes I think it's over,it isn't. He just pretends like everythings fine again
Tim'sAngel Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 everytimes I think it's over,it isn't. He just pretends like everythings fine again Thats why it is up to you to put an end to it. He sounds very manipulative and he will finds ways to throw you for a loop and feel like everything is your fault. Don't wait on him. This is your life too! Ditch him!!!
johan Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 You have to make it happen. Sooner is better, because each time you fail makes it harder the next time. There are a lot of people here who will hurry to write you words of encouragement. Take advantage of that. But Outcast had a good suggestion as well: you may need to rely on the authorities if he doesn't react well. It's better to at least get in touch with them. Guys like him are just too broken to be with, and it's sad to think he'll move on to someone else after you. He should just be removed from the dating pool altogether.
amaysngrace Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 You have to make it happen. Sooner is better, because each time you fail makes it harder the next time. Very true, because each time you threaten to leave without acting on it, he will become more and more forceful to see that you don't leave him. Guys like him are just too broken to be with, and it's sad to think he'll move on to someone else after you. He should just be removed from the dating pool altogether. I could not agree more. I would also recommend you go speak to someone at your local women's center to see how his abuse is making you stay. The feelings you feel towards him are so classic for a victim of domestic violence. They will help you understand the cycle, recognize the signs for next time, and also deal with the issues (past and present) that you may have.
Author AnnaJ Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 I've decided I want to do it tonight. He keeps bringing up my past and getting upset over it. It's time to call the end, I can't take anymore
Author AnnaJ Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 I feel like he's taking away every part of me, I don't feel or know who I am. It really hurts and I feel trapped. Thanksfor your replies. I will keep you updated.
Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 I never managed it. I truly think it's over now, ain't seem him since a few days ago, and I just been pushed away. Got one text this morning just saying sorry. I didn't reply. There's been nothing since. Normally he's calling/texting all the time. What the hell is going on now?
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