sallyjavan Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 if there is anyone out there that is surviving along distance relationship not 200 or 300 miles apart i mean very far please share your stories and how you survived them. and if you didnt survived them what did you do to forget them? thanks
norajane Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 My SO and I are 2000 miles apart. We've known each other many years, though we didn't start seeing each other until after I had moved away from my hometown. I'm moving back in a couple weeks, and we are both thrilled that seeing each other won't have to involve airports and flying anymore! We've been able to keep things going through phone, email, and squeezing in visits about once a month or so, plus we've been able to take a vacation or two together during the 18 months we've been in LDR. We're a bit older, though (late 30's), so money/travel hasn't been a big problem. Also, because we were friends for many years and knew each other well, we didn't have any trust issues that tend to creep in when you have an LDR. The hardest thing for me was to keep remembering that he loves me. He doesn't talk about his feelings very much; he's more likely to show how he feels by the way he acts, which makes LDR that much more difficult since we can't see each other frequently. Understanding his communication style has helped tremendously in making me feel secure in the relationship despite the distance, as has the realization that he doesn't have to constantly tell me he loves me for me to see that he does.
whitewhale Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I've been wondering. What do you mean - not 300. Is that little? It's not LDR? I've just met somebody. It's all so much like a fairy tale, I don't know what to think of it. I'm just so in love. And all the sings tell me he's in love too. And he says so too, actually I so hope he's the one. I feel it.
Author sallyjavan Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 hi whitewale, the answer to your question i mean not living 2 or 3 hours away from you for example you live in california and they live in washington. i hope things go well for you. thats good your both in love, i was in love with mine but he lived in middle east in a different country not state country. so imagine how frustrating it can be. the important thing is to be able to trust each other thats the important thing, i got really really hurt because of this. and still hurts after 8 years so imagine how i'm dealing with it as of this momment. just keep it the way your going and most importantly be honest with one another. i dont know where you live or the person you are dating with. i hope things go well for you. if you need to talk more please do send me a message. i'm telling you this because of my experince. bye
whitewhale Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I'm really sorry for what happened to you I hope you'll find sb that will NOT hurt you ever. My newly foound love around 3 hours away by fast train, but I'm not geaographically located near you. I'm from central Europe I really truly believe, that I finally found the one... I've been waitng for a very long time, it seems to me. I'm 28, last year I browsed these forums, broken after a relationship and was so sure that I'm just definitely unlucky. And now something so incredible... More than the words can say.... I intend to move to his city. It won't be a problem, it's not so far away, and I'm already commuting once a week (for 1-2 days) to work 130 km (university), and so it'll just be a bit further from work, and finally in his arms both nights and days (well, except when he's at work ) I'm so very happy! I feel like telling it to the world
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