Buttaflyy Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 This may be a stupid question but this is the story... My bf works really long hours, like over 50 hours a week. He doesn't go out with friends, he comes home straight after work. I bought him a video game (PS2) for christmas and he is hooked on that friggin game and on it everytime he has free time! Since he's had it he doesn't want to leave the house to go to family events either. I feel like I am battling for his attention due to this game. He does not shut it off and he creeps into bed after I'm asleep wanting to be intimate. By then, I am totally pissed! I've thought of "accidentally" breaking it somehow, but he'd probably break me in half . (Not really) We've had arguments because of it, he feels as if I'm being selfish because he's always working and I'm trying to take away his "pleasure". I think he's immature still playing with toys. He doesn't want ANYONE touching it either! We had an arguement because I had kids over and let them play it. He feels as if I should monitor his property when he's not home. I refuse to be the PS2 police. Who's right here?
beautifulnpink22 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 To be completely honest, there is absolutely nothing you can do. I am in the same situation as you; My boyfriend either plays cards all night with his friend while I am in his room bored out of my mind, playing video games on the pc, ps2, and on my phone all night long. I told him if he could pay that much attention to me and put that much effort into our relationship as he puts into the game things could be great. And you would think after I said that there would be some form of progress right? Hell no. Unfortunately, if you cannot get through to him by talking to him there isn't anything else you can do besides ignore him when he wants your attention.
Author Buttaflyy Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 To be completely honest, there is absolutely nothing you can do. I am in the same situation as you; My boyfriend either plays cards all night with his friend while I am in his room bored out of my mind, playing video games on the pc, ps2, and on my phone all night long. I told him if he could pay that much attention to me and put that much effort into our relationship as he puts into the game things could be great. And you would think after I said that there would be some form of progress right? Hell no. Unfortunately, if you cannot get through to him by talking to him there isn't anything else you can do besides ignore him when he wants your attention. YES you're right! That's exactly what I told mine about putting that much effort into our relationship. He doesn't get it though. I do the same thing as far as ignoring him, but I'm getting frustrated with this too. I'm starting to feel the effects myself:(
TUDOR Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Word of advice if you don't want your sex life to go down hill in a hurry, avoid buying your men PS2's or any other game playing toy. The novality of it will wear off after a few months but trust me he will be very into it for a little while.
michmash81 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 OMG ladies I know the feeling right now I could careless w/what my hubby does but that's because I let it go too far and I did. My hubby plays on his computer all night long doesn't spend time w/either kid of ours or anything. I have asked around my mom told me to take the mouse of the computer. I also was told to turn off our internet. Which I did neither. But you are seriously going to have to have a heart to heart w/them and tell them you want time to. It sucks having to share your time w/a damn video game. I understand I was once in that boat. Now I'm to the point where I don't care. Don't let it get that far.. Do something now
Author Buttaflyy Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 Word of advice if you don't want your sex life to go down hill in a hurry, avoid buying your men PS2's or any other game playing toy. The novality of it will wear off after a few months but trust me he will be very into it for a little while. Wish I'd known better before!
hotgurl Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I have a ps2 and I like to play it a little but it is mostly for my daughter. The thing is everyone has thier own things t hey like to do to unwind but he is carrying it too far. Maybe comrpimise and put a time limit on it and incoporate couples time. Unfortunatly my friends BF was the same way and he was just to selfish and immature to take his gf feelings intoa ccoutn and she left him that was one of the reasons she left.
ronnieromance Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Those things can be really addictive. Why don't you get a/some games you can play with him? But I warn you...If you suck at them he won't want to play you. Or you could make him jealous by making a webdate account and flirting with witty, eligible bachelors while he plays games. -R-
Author Buttaflyy Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 Those things can be really addictive. Why don't you get a/some games you can play with him? But I warn you...If you suck at them he won't want to play you. Or you could make him jealous by making a webdate account and flirting with witty, eligible bachelors while he plays games. -R- HE doesn't wanna play me now! He's addicted to a basketball game that I suck at and he doesn't wanna play anyone really. He's always trying to beat his last score As far as the webdate thing ...I have another thread about that. I was informed by other LSers that, that wasn't too cool. (it wasn't a dating service but an online friend.) :laugh:
Author Buttaflyy Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 BTW. I showed him this post last night and he laughed. He said that I was exaggerating the situation to you guys. Then I only had to wait about 4 hrs:rolleyes: instead of falling asleep alone.
Hitman10000 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Are these guys fat asses or are they under 25? I work long hours too, but I spend time in the gym, outside hiking or playing some solo sports. And I date a girl too. Yeah, I play video games but it doesn't interest me that much compared to several goals I got going right now.
confusedgeek Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Hmmm. I think its going well for both of you. Considering that you showed him this post. So, you both have a very open relationship. If only all couples like that were so lucky, in my opinion. Playing video games is a fun past time. Games have been around forever (or a really long time). It's a good way to relax, think about some thing else, or enjoy something different. I don't think playing games is immature. I work in an industry where games is the job. Playing games is no different from reading a book or working a job. As for anyone not touching it.... thats a bit far fetched. But its just like a guy's car, you dont touch a guys car. But its understandable. He plays the ps2 but doesnt want to go to family events. This sounds like a good thing, sometimes. Ever consider that he doesnt like family events all the time? I guess what im trying to say is that, this guy wants some personal time to himself. And I dont see anything wrong with this. I guess im the same way. My family always wants me to go with them to do something, but work keeps me so busy. I just want to relax. Playing a game is good like that. They complain about me not seeing them too often, but i still make time to see them when I can. ....As for the PS2 police, its fine you dont watch it. Tell him to pick up another for everyone else to use or go lock it up himself if hes that picky about it. But since it's his PS2, its his responsibility to be in charge of it, yes? Anyways, I hope you find this post helpful. Good luck with this. - ConfusedGeek
Author Buttaflyy Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Hmmm. I think its going well for both of you. Considering that you showed him this post. So, you both have a very open relationship. If only all couples like that were so lucky, in my opinion. Playing video games is a fun past time. Games have been around forever (or a really long time). It's a good way to relax, think about some thing else, or enjoy something different. I don't think playing games is immature. I work in an industry where games is the job. Playing games is no different from reading a book or working a job. As for anyone not touching it.... thats a bit far fetched. But its just like a guy's car, you dont touch a guys car. But its understandable. He plays the ps2 but doesnt want to go to family events. This sounds like a good thing, sometimes. Ever consider that he doesnt like family events all the time? I guess what im trying to say is that, this guy wants some personal time to himself. And I dont see anything wrong with this. I guess im the same way. My family always wants me to go with them to do something, but work keeps me so busy. I just want to relax. Playing a game is good like that. They complain about me not seeing them too often, but i still make time to see them when I can. ....As for the PS2 police, its fine you dont watch it. Tell him to pick up another for everyone else to use or go lock it up himself if hes that picky about it. But since it's his PS2, its his responsibility to be in charge of it, yes? Anyways, I hope you find this post helpful. Good luck with this. - ConfusedGeek THANKS CG! I did in fact find your post to be veeeeeery helpful. Thanks for the insight! :love:
Stupid_Dummy Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 This may be a stupid question but this is the story... My bf works really long hours, like over 50 hours a week. He doesn't go out with friends, he comes home straight after work. I bought him a video game (PS2) for christmas and he is hooked on that friggin game and on it everytime he has free time! Since he's had it he doesn't want to leave the house to go to family events either. I feel like I am battling for his attention due to this game. He does not shut it off and he creeps into bed after I'm asleep wanting to be intimate. By then, I am totally pissed! I've thought of "accidentally" breaking it somehow, but he'd probably break me in half . (Not really) We've had arguments because of it, he feels as if I'm being selfish because he's always working and I'm trying to take away his "pleasure". I think he's immature still playing with toys. He doesn't want ANYONE touching it either! We had an arguement because I had kids over and let them play it. He feels as if I should monitor his property when he's not home. I refuse to be the PS2 police. Who's right here? Reading this thread totally made my day! Ha ha! While I was younger, I use to be exactly like your boyfriend. My little sister and I would always battle over the PS2, and argue about which game we should play next. It dawned on me that no matter how well I perform "in-game" (so to speak), it's not going to do anything for my personal life. Go workout, get some air - and maybe a musical instrument (cowbell ) while you're at it!
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