youneverknow Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Okay, so this is the scoop. I am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We went out when i was sixteen for about 6 months but he cheated on me and we split. We got back together last April because we both grew up a lot and i had a new found trust in him. Of course him cheating has always been in the back of my mind and i think i will always struggle with it. We do have a good relationship and he seems to really care about me, and lately he has been telling me that a lot. So to get to the point, last night i snooped through some of his chat logs on MSN. I found a bunch of chats with girls he knows from our town (this didn't bother me, i too, have male friends who i chat with). thing is i found a lot of flirting in those message and jokes about sex (i got the feeling they were only jokes from the way they were talking, but hey u neverknow). I also saw that he was sorta making plans w/ one of the girls to hang out w/ him and his buddies. (at least it wasnt for a romantic dinner lol) This really bothered me so i text msg'd him after i read them asking about this girl. I didnt get into great detail because i didn't really want to say that i had been snooping. So he told me that girl was his buddies on/off gf for a year and that she had gone out w/ them to a bar before and he was just offering her a ride. Anyway i just cut the convo cos i had to get to bed, but i woke up this morning feeling upset, confused and unsure about how i should handle this. Should i take this seriously or is it just friends chatting and flirting? Should i just suck it up and tell him i snooped through his chat to get answers? or will that cause more problems? I need to get to the bottom of this, it is killing me, i'm at work right now and it's all i can think about. anyone have any advice? been in a similar situation? responses would be greatly appreciated !\ thanks alot guys...
AMBERINVEGAS2112 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Uh No...you're 20 Kick His Ass To The Curb With No Explanation, Don't Answer His Calls, Emails Text Messages...no Contact..just Break It Off With No Explanationg. You're 20, I'm 37 Believe Me Oh Sweet Girl....you Will Meet Another And This Will Not Be You're Only Heartbreak....don't Stay With One Date Many..but Don't Sleep Around. You're Better Than That. Let Them Take You Out...if He Tries Something, Punch Him Out. If You Find One That You Really Want To Get To Know....take-your-time...no Sex For At Least A Month...let Him Show You What He Can Offer You In An Emotional Connection.
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