scottstlove Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 "I feel kinda shy about going on the internet to seek help but no harm in trying. some details im 19 and shes 18 been together for 2 1/2 months even thoits not long it feels like so much longer. My concern about what is happening. Shes always been conerned about her body and what people will think shes not a big girl and i encourage her not to be shy. One day i go out to work and shes having a girls night so there tanning and talking having a good time. But they were taking pictures they even went out and drove around in the bikinis just for the hell of it. Now shes posted them on her MSN profile thingy. I told her the next day how that makes me feel uncomfotable that she is shy of her body around me but not to shy to display it to the world. Which pissed the hell out of me, She responded that "I feel guilty that i did it. Why dont i feel like im acting like a girlfriend and cant commit to you even when you treat me so well ?". Im pretty sure shes still hung up on her ex of last year and is afraid to commite to me thinking that she will be too clingy and bitchy and ill run away. Ive tried telling her that im not going to leave if theres a fight but i would want to work it out or at least talk about it. Or she will say that she dosnt feel like shes in ......"Boyfriend mode" pretty much. Im picking up signals that this girl dosnt want the same things I do. One thing that threw a stick in my wheel was that she said "she was fallingin love with me." and one night she told me that she loved me (we havnt slept together). But the other day she said "I want to cool it on the i love you." I mean you cant take something like that back in my opinion. I'm not sure if thats enough information to evaluate my relationship and where its going. I know its early but im feeling really insecure about the whole situation and her leaving me or shes not happy. Last thing haha She told me that she is used to having the badboy or attracted to them and its a huge change to be with someone as nice and romantic as me. I told her im not changing who I am to meet her requirments for what she wants. I thought about trying to get her to make some closure with her ex ( they were togethor for a year and 1/2). I would bring her to his house just so that she could get everything out or freaking burn all that stupid s*** that reminds you of him. Shes still hung up and i dont know what to do. Thanks to anyone who replys and information is helpful information.
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