Stunner Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Met a nice guy...started dating. He has been respectful, fun loving, kind and has introduced me to his daughter and kissed me in front of her.... We were dating for three weeks the first time we had sex, which was great by the way. This was a three hour event, ok?! He said things like, "You know..I hope you never fake anything because that will do you no good..." I reassured him I am comfortable enough to say something..and have never faked anything. Also, "You realize now the doors are wide open.." (he was waiting for me to take the sexual step so he wouldn't be 'that guy') We spoke for a few minutes the next day and the day after was when he came by to fix something he installed fo rme. I walked him to the front porch where he gave me a warm kiss and said, "Talk to you soon." When I said goodbye to his daughter, I thanked her for coming over to play and he chimed in with a warm smile and "We'll be back.." We made no firm plans for the following week but I have left a couple of messages. Here is what I know: Sunday-Out of town; weekend with daughter; home late (no call, ok)I left message....non committal..."do you want to make plans this week, if so give me a yell." Monday-Probably recovering from Sunday as it was a long drive and this is his busiest day of the week. I left message....(no call) Tuesday-Work; evening and overnight with daughter...I didn't call. Neither did he. Wed.-All day with daughter; I left message, "Hey, I had a moment and thought I'd leave you a hello, hope you guys are having a great day...talk to you later." Thursday-Working, not sure how long...no call yet...I am not calling and planning on going out tonight by myself. Now, I know he's been kicking his own butt to drive to my end of town in order to go out...Last Thursday we were intimate and stayed up until 12:30am laughing, cutting up and talking about what we want to do next until he had to leave...had to work the next day at 6am. Very warm, affectionate, kissy kissy...all that. Could it be he is just exhausted and needs a rest after several hectic days? He has been saying everything in future tense as if he has no plans to break things off. I am older, very attractive, athletic, good in the bedroom, financially independant and I give him his space and am not demanding of too much of his time. Whats your opinion???? Is he trying to ditch me or is he just busy????
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 the guy can call you........you know it takes no effort in making a simple phone call to check in. do you think he is a player? and why did he kiss u in front of his daughter? weird.
Author Stunner Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 He didn't give off any typical signals of being a player....initially asked all the good questions. "do you date more than one person at a time?" "do you want any more kids?" We've had great conversations on where we are emtotionally in our lives independently and he has spoken volumes on his family history and physical limitations he's had to go through (broken neck). He said he wants to take things slowly, that he really likes me and doesn't want to screw anything up. Mentioned he's done that in the past by going to fast. Maybe he felt so much during sex, so awesome, he needed a little space to cool down. He is adorable..very cute and has a lot of good eye contact and has been nothing but honest and upfront. I don't know if something happened or he is having a frustrating week and doesn't want to project that onto me...don't know what to think right now. I can speculate why he kissed me in front of his daughter. Since he did so immediately after walking outside he was being respectful of my kids but knew he wants to go further so felt comfortable giving me one in front of her. ?????maybe I am worried. I really like him....
Author Stunner Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 Bumping..... Would really like input on this one if anyone can add.. What do you do when the words and actions don't add up to the current situation of not contacting me? Thanks!!!
jerbear Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 I hate playing gmaes, I would suggest you wait a few days before calling. If and when he calls, you have to tell him not returning phone calls is unacceptable even if you like him. It is possible, giving him the benefit of the doubt that he is truely busy. I do agree with the others that his actions do not match his words.
Touche Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Back off! That's what I would do. He sounds like a good guy. He really does. It sounds like you may have slept with him too soon. Sorry, but that's my opinion. You need to back off and let him take the lead now. Stop analyzing everything. Take it slow from here on out. You'll know soon enough if this a fling or the real thing.
alphamale Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Whats your opinion???? Is he trying to ditch me or is he just busy???? Its hard to say at this point....but you should totally stop contacting him and see what happens. If he does not contact you within 7 to 10 days then its safe to say you're history. Good Luck Alpha
Author Stunner Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 Thanks for the responses. That is what I needed to hear from folks who don't know me personally. Wish me luck!
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