the21yearoldvirgin Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Hello people. I'll admit it right now, I've never been in a relationship, dated, kissed, held hands or anything that goes with relationship. I never had sex either. I'm a pretty shy guy. When I was younger I would avoid talking to girls, later I broke that, but another problem arised. I inherited keloids on my body and my self steem went through the floor. I was never able to recover this. I became very insecure and avoided being touched through out highschool. I would get so unconfortable when people touched me. It didn't matter who it was, I didn't like it. I had a fear of them discovering my defect. I've had some crushes but got denied by either the gal having a boyfriend already or not being interested. After I hear this I usually start loosing interest in the girl and move on and I usually feel better because that burden has been released from me. I'm 21 and I go to a community college. I'm in summer school right now and I go to a school thats about a hour away. One day I stayed after class to get a quick question answered from the teacher. Thats when a very attractive girl came to my sights. I want to talk to her, but I have nothing to say because I'm a naturally quiet/shy person and I always have a fear of putting people in situations they don't want to be. I've been in these situations many times and the outcomes always the same. I really don't know what to do because she is in the next class so its gonna have to be small talk. I really would like some change for a chance but I'm so fixated on being the way I am. I'll be going to a big university after summer but I'm sure I won't get far there with women. My friend goes to one and he hasn't had any luck and hes more social/talkactive then I am. I feel content with being the way I am, I've pretty much lost hope and I don't really want to deal with trying this anymore. Sorry for the long post, but I needed to let this out of me because its hard to explain to people that think something is wrong with me.
jerbear Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Depending on where the kleoids are located maybe you can remove them and hope it doesn't come back. It is never to "dating late in the game" as long as you finish! Now if you are 90 and wanting to date then that is another issue. At 21 and going to school, there are quite a few girls/women. Make a small 3 minute soapbox speech before you go up to the girl in the next class. Something I've learned is one should be prepared to have a 3 minute speech, learned that from politicians. Something like this modify it anyway you want it. ---- Hi, I'm Casanova from the class next door. I noticed you goto X class, how is it? I am thinking of taking it. blah blah blah... Hey <insert girl's name or lack of one> hey I'm going to do XXX this weekend, want to come? ---- want to come, I want you to join me, care to join me, you coming, etc... and if possible reduce your "umms" Since you are in school, there might be a communications requirement which may require you to get up and speak! I suggest that course before you do any class requiring presentations. Also helps your presentation skills and raises your self esteem because you did it before! Now the touching part... may require more on your part. For me, I face my fears. So in my opinion I would suggest getting a 30 minute massage at a legit and real spa place. MIGHT help you relax, get some massage pointers, and slowly get used to being touched.
Guest Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Thanks, Unfortunatly they cannot be removed if they are, they come back probably even worse. They are on my shoulders and lower back. The massive ones are on my back of the shoulders so I could not handle a massage and the person probably would feel awkward. I guess I could try that, but it feels so awkward not knowing the person and asking her to do something, I would be scared if that happened to me if I was a girl. If a girl asked me to do that I would happy/excited (as long as she doesn't look like a cow) I don't know what to do, I honestly hate being in these positions and I wish I could be asexual or emotionless in this department. Its depressing and sad when all your friends get dates and I seem to be the loner.
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