leftinlincoln Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for the past 11 months. During that time he has displayed a somewhat jekyll/hyde approach to our relationship and his life in general. We went to my hometown for a week in March of this year on vacation (in which he paid for everything) and met my family. He has talked about moving to my home state when I finish graduate school. I am ashamed to admit how dysfunctional parts of the relationship has been, but I want honest feedback so here it goes. During the 11 months this man has been wonderful to me: listened to my problems, provided some financial support, and spent almost 7 days a week with me. However, recently he has been receiving phone calls from other women who he had met out at the bar (telling me they are just friends), if we have an argument he will call the police and file a report (falsely reporting that I've injured him/broken into his residence . . . ). Meanwhile, he will call me within hours of the spat and apologize. Last night he called me at 6:00 p.m. to tell me he would not be coming to see me until later in the evening from a bar and was obviously intoxicated. He screamed into the phone at me "don't call me, I'll call you." Then I receive a phone call at 3:00 a.m. in which he tells me he slept with another woman and that it is "pay backs" for when he believes I cheated on him (which is not true BTW, but if I am out of his sight he thinks that). I am extremely upset about the way I have been treated and his "no big deal" attitude makes me think he must have been doing this all along. I don't understand how someone you think cares about you so much (and tells you that) can sleep with someone and call you like "well I'm telling you so aren't I a great guy." The problem is I love him and I want to be with him. My question how do I get over this and how do I stop blaming myself (saying things like why wasnt I enough for him). PLEASE HELP ME . . . I feel miserably sad and want nothing more than to hear his voice although I know that is a terrible idea. Thanks in advance for any suggestions/advice.
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