Great Guy, Bad Timing?? Advise!!

[HeiressParis]

Ok, I met this really great guy through a mutual friend about 3 years ago. He and I were with different people at the time but we hit it off right away. We had a really strong connection and a lot of physical attraction to each other. We first met at his house when my bffe and I stopped by to hang out with him and his brothers. Then I didn't see him for a few weeks when my bffe and some other friends and I were at the beach. We hung out for hours until his gf showed up. Then we all went driving on the beach and took tons of photos due to my bffe's request! lol! He and I continued talking for weeks after that until his gf deleted contact numbers for me from his phone. She told him to get rid of the pics he and I took together at the beach, etc. Even though she knew that he and I would never do that to her, b/c first of all i befriended her right away and thought it would be fun to double date, and b/c neither of us are like that, but she knew we were close and liked each other. But he found a way to hide them from her so he'd always have them. lol. my bf at the time could not have cared less. he knew i would never cheat on him. so he and i lost contact for about 2 yrs. fast forward 2 years, my bf and i broke up after 4 years together in oct. '05. i didn't date for about 4 months and then i was sorta seeing this other guy for about 4 months. recently unknown to me the guy i had lost contact with had been dumped by his gf (the same one he had been with when we met). For about 2-3 weeks he had been begging my bffe for my number and she didn't want me to be a "rebound" or get hurt so she refused for about a month. Then he got my number and called me up. I was completely shocked and surprised when he left me 3 messages saying "my secret admirer wanted to talk to me" and then finally telling me who it was so i would call back!! lol! (i don't like to answer numbers i don't know on my cell, so thats y he called so many times). when i finally figured out who it was, i called him back and we talked for 3 hours! lol! he went out of town for a week, but when he came back we met up for dinner and went back to his house to play with the puppies and watch a movie and talk. He called me up one day and made me my favorite italian dish, lasanga with salads, bread, and my fave drink, strawberry daquiris. He would give me massages, pick flowers randomly for me, dance with me, tickle fight, go to the beach, etc. Another night he took me out to dinner and then to a remote and private beach where we laid on a blanket and talked and kisssed under the stars and walked up and down the shore and getting splashed by the breakers. We did this for about 3 weeks, seeing each other every other day, texting every day and then we went to busch gardens one weekend and took things to the next level. i told him that i knew he and his ex just broke up and i didn't want to be a rebound. he told me that he never though of me in that way and told me he has always liked me, since the very first day we met. he said he wasn't ready for a relationship right now, b/c he just got out of one and I wasn't ready yet either b/c i was still fresh out of the 4 month relationship i was in. but he said that eventually he wanted to be in one again. i told him that last guy hurt me really badly and i didn't want to be friends with benefits. he told me that eventually things would turn into something more and I agreed that after some time getting to know each other i would like that too. we cont. to spend more time together and he invited me to Busch Gardens again, this time with 2 of his brothers and their wives/gf. We spent more time together that week and went to my bffe's wedding (the same bffe that introduced us! lol ) things were great until that sunday (we hadn't seen each other all weekend, b/c we decided to spend time with friends instead) when we were talking he said that he wanted to be alone for awhile, because even though its been a month and a half since his ex left him, it still hurts him and he isn't fully over her yet. He got upset b/c he thought i should understand and thought i didn't but i told i did understand. i still have feelings for my ex's and it does hurt. but i really like him and this hurt me really bad when he said he just wanted to take time apart until he is completely over his ex. he said its not fair to me to pursue a realtionship with me any farther when he is still not over her. so right now we are not talking or hanging out. he told me he would call me when he was def. over it. as far as our relationship he said if i were still available he'd like to see where things go. I am not going to sit around and mope or not date other people, but I really like him and I hate that he is going through this crap. I hate that we aren't talking or hanging out. he said it wouldn't be a good idea b/c he knows we are more than friends and that spending time together while he is getting over his ex isn't giving him the time he needs to get over it. so i told him that i understand and would let him have his time, and if i am still available and if he calls then we;ll see what happens. After all these years he still has that picture that we took together, framed in his house. Yesterday i sent him a card with 2 picture frames with some recent pics of us for him to have. I guess just a reminder to him of someone who really cares about him and wants to see him happy. i talked to my bffe about my feelings for him prior to her wedding and she said to me that if he tells me something, he means it and he would never lie to me. She said she knows we'd be great together and that he wouldn't ever go back with his ex, but I still have this feeling like I am yet again getting screwed over. It's like every time I fall for someone, or if everything is going great, something happens and screws it all up and I am back at square one.

 

Not sure if any of this made sense but I really just need everyone's opinion on what u think this means. does he care about me? does he want a relationship with me? do i mean anything to him? i need an insight! Thanks

[Carlthecoffeeaddict]

my honest opinion? if a guy likes you enough.....to the point where he will want to be with you, trust me you will be the cure to getting over his ex. what is lurking behind him hesitating to be with you? we don't know. There might be another girl in the picture.

 

Carl