Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I wouldn't personally call 25/30 lots! Sadly, for a 28yr old male, I agree
basscatcher Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Come on then let's lay it on the line, I want numbers y'all - How many people have you slept with, let's be honest now, I want your age and amount, then we can start to do some real finger pointing! Or are you scared? This was pretty much done in another thread. Your too late...
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I don't think numbers mean anything.. male or female. What matters is whether or not they have any STD's. A person with a low number of 1 can have an STD such as herpes or Hiv.. and that can be a deal breaker..
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 You know RP, I am experiencing some serious Deja Vu
kitten chick Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I don't think numbers mean anything.. male or female. What matters is whether or not they have any STD's. A person with a low number of 1 can have an STD such as herpes or Hiv.. and that can be a deal breaker.. I agree
Cecelius Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I thought this thread was just about man-whores? Not person-whores? Where is the endless debate on double standards? Some guys will date a girl with a high body count, some wont. Some girls won't date a dude who's low in the experience category, some will. If you find out your potential SO has something going on that isn't attractive, dump them and move on.
shoedevil Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I thought this thread was just about man-whores? Not person-whores? Where is the endless debate on double standards? Some guys will date a girl with a high body count, some wont. Some girls won't date a dude who's low in the experience category, some will. If you find out your potential SO has something going on that isn't attractive, dump them and move on. I don't believe the double standard actually exists or is practiced much at all. Sure, plenty of people believe it exists, but how many actually practice it? The only major studies I've seen have concluded that people with low numbers of partners prefer people who are similar in that respect. And people with high numbers of partners will date/marry people who also have high numbers. It sounds more like a two-tier standard, not a double standard. Of course, some future study could suggest otherwise. I don't think numbers mean anything.. male or female. A high number of partners is one of several major factors that indicate a prepensity to commit adultery. In that frame of reference, it certainly does mean something. Some research has been done on the subject: http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/journals/3214800.html But if you don't mind being cheated on or being in an open relationship, then the number of partners wouldn't be very important to you... Last time I checked, median number of lifetime partners was 6 for men and 2 for women. I'm sure there's some lying (up and down) going on, but I think the numbers are closer together, maybe around 4 for both genders. To say that 25+ partners is not a lot is to totally ignore all sociological research and evidence on the subject.
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 In that frame of reference, it certainly does mean something. But if you don't mind being cheated on or being in an open relationship, then the number of partners wouldn't be very important to you... That isn't much of a factor according to the article you present as evidence The more sex partners a respondent had had between age 18 and the time of first marriage or cohabitation, the more likely he or she was to be unfaithful (1.01). Men and women who lived in a central city had elevated odds of infidelity (1.5) According to the report if you live in the central city you are 49.09 % more likely to cheat than if you had more partners.. instead of a 0.01%
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Last time I checked, median number of lifetime partners was 6 for men and 2 for women. I'm sure there's some lying (up and down) going on, but I think the numbers are closer together, maybe around 4 for both genders. To say that 25+ partners is not a lot is to totally ignore all sociological research and evidence on the subject. Oh my! I guess you'd have to differentiate between partner and relationship in my case! Yeah, I've had only a few relationships but lots of "partners". I think it comes down to personal pleasure really and what your beliefs are. I believe that ONLY BIRDS MATE FOR LIFE, and I totally agree with that for my life right now. I don't think that people would consider me to be a slut though, but if they do, so be it. I don't really care what people who judge me think anyway. I say if it feels good, do it. You only live once.
Walk Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Last time I checked, median number of lifetime partners was 6 for men and 2 for women. I'm sure there's some lying (up and down) going on, but I think the numbers are closer together, maybe around 4 for both genders. To say that 25+ partners is not a lot is to totally ignore all sociological research and evidence on the subject. I seriously doubt those numbers. I'd say a closer average, from my experience would be 5-7 guys. Some significantly higher, few are lower. Who are they polling? 15 year olds?
ronnieromance Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 What bothers me is not just the insinuation of adulturous, amoral tendancies in people who get ass on a regular basis, but the complet disregard to the fact that people with few partners suck in bed. I don't want a virgin, or a woman who is any semblance of. That s*** is 100% turn-off and, on a subconcious level, I beleive that men who want these qualities in their women are not pedophiles soley for the fact that it is illegal. I want good sex. I'm a good lover and I want that s*** reciprocated. You don't get good at something by not doing it, that's for damn sure. -R-
electric_sheep Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Once again, I'll point out the mathmatically obvious. There is no (mathmatical) way women can have only 2 partners and men 6, if the population sample is roughly 50/50 men/women (more or less true in the USA), and one is considering ONLY heterosexual relationships. The numbers should match. Either that or men are going to Canada to get more pussy. (pop. women)*2 = number of men women have slept with. (pop. men)*6 = number of women men have slept with. (pop. women) = (pop. men) Despite this fact virtually every study that has been done has the average # of partners for men significantly higher. Are men lying ? Are women lying ? Or both ?
shoedevil Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 That isn't much of a factor according to the article you present as evidence I didn't say it was the biggest factor, just one of several major factors according to the research. I seriously doubt those numbers. I'd say a closer average, from my experience would be 5-7 guys. Some significantly higher, few are lower. Who are they polling? 15 year olds? You do know the difference between average and median? Most surveys on this topic interview people between the ages of 18 and 60 or so. There are differences in results, though: http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/PollVault/story?id=156921&page=1 http://www.upenn.edu/pennnews/features/1994/120194/sexstudy.html But I don't think the results differ by that much...
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Are men lying ? Are women lying ? Or both ? Interesting point ES.. polls and studies are flawed from the get go.. as they based on the truth of the taker
electric_sheep Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I want good sex. I'm a good lover and I want that s*** reciprocated. You don't get good at something by not doing it, that's for damn sure. I'm not sure there is any concensus on what constitutes good sex, and what's good sex to one person may not be good to another. Also, some people claim the emotional/spiritual dimension of sex is of much greater importance in determining if it's good than technique. Lastly, my first girlfriend and I had great sex (to us) despite never having had sex with anyone else. Just like anything else, some people are naturally better at it than others. Since then, I've been with women who have had many more partners than her ... most of whom don't come close to being as good as her.
shoedevil Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I want good sex. I'm a good lover and I want that s*** reciprocated. You don't get good at something by not doing it, that's for damn sure. Then I suppose your ideal partner would be an ex-prostitute or porn star? They have the most experience, after all. I wasn't insinuating anything, just pointing out some studies that have been done. I don't think you could do the same in regards to virgins or people with few partners being terrible lovers. But I understand where you're coming from. You place sexual satisfaction at the top of your list. I don't think that's the best strategy for long-term relationship success. Just my opinion.
Cecelius Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Of course they are lying. Whatever a man says you divide by 2 and whatever a woman says multiply by 3.
kitten chick Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I feel like this whole thread is just one urban myth after another. Just because you've had a lot of partners doesn't make you great in bed and it doesn't mean you're going to cheat. Just because you've had a few partners doesn't mean that you're not adventurous in bed and it doesn't mean youo're going to be faithful. You can't multiply or divide an honest person's numbers and you can't rely on the number a dishonest person tells you. I can back every one of these statements with examples. Really, numbers just don't matter. Just for some fun facts, the guy that cheated on me slept with the lowest number of people than any other guy I've ever met (in adulthood).
tanbark813 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Really, numbers just don't matter. W3rd. Preach on, sista.
Vertex Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Numbers are irrelevant -- only the "number at hand" matters.
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Numbers are irrelevant and the fact that people almost always tell the person the wrong number it makes the numbers even more irrelevant
j.carsey Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 So this girl meets a guy who has had many (25-35) women in bed before. Most of them were probably one-night stands. He is 28 years old. Is he a slut and is she just one of his adevntures? Is he prone to cheating? What do you think? I think he is probably going to use her for sex just like he used many other women for sex. Plus the diseases... men can carry many of them without showing any symptoms. Yuck! So uh anyway unless the girl feels a fantastic bond developing with the guy, she should avoid I think. Even if she wants to stick with him wait a LONG time before sex, that will really test to see what he's in it for
a4a Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 It would seem to me that if you have not slept with enough people you would be more apt to cheat to attempt to get a "taste" of life :lmao: Use this formula instead. Every person should have a minimum of 7 partners to be sure that they are indeed able to be monogamus with a ltr/married partner. Every person should have at least one sexual experience with the same sex to be sure they will not suddenly turn or desire to be gay once married. Every person should experience at least one threesome to be sure that they will not want to partake of that once married. Get it out of their system. Feel free to print this out and use it as a check list for future LTR or marriage candidates :lmao:
shoedevil Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I feel like this whole thread is just one urban myth after another. Just because you've had a lot of partners doesn't make you great in bed and it doesn't mean you're going to cheat. Just because you've had a few partners doesn't mean that you're not adventurous in bed and it doesn't mean youo're going to be faithful. You're right, of course. It depends on the individual. Statistics don't apply to individuals (though individuals make up statistics). Myself, I couldn't really trust someone who had a casual attitude/history when it came to sex. I'd wonder if the woman had really turned over a new leaf, or whether I was just another number to her. You're really rolling the dice when you date people (unless you meet them through friends/coworkers). They could be lying or telling truth. I think most people who lie about their past history do so at the beginning, so as to draw the other person into a relationship.
Touche Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 It would seem to me that if you have not slept with enough people you would be more apt to cheat to attempt to get a "taste" of life :lmao: Use this formula instead. Every person should have a minimum of 7 partners to be sure that they are indeed able to be monogamus with a ltr/married partner. Every person should have at least one sexual experience with the same sex to be sure they will not suddenly turn or desire to be gay once married. Every person should experience at least one threesome to be sure that they will not want to partake of that once married. Get it out of their system. Feel free to print this out and use it as a check list for future LTR or marriage candidates :lmao: Well, I have two out of those three! Hope I'm not in danger of straying.
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