beautifulnpink22 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Yesterday evening my boyfriend called me from a number in which I did not recognize and we talked for a bit while he was ordering take out. I told him I wanted to see him and all that good mushy stuff. He told me that he was with his cousin (which is a male) and that he would call me back. Now somehow the phone that he used to call me dialed my number back without him knowing. At first I'm yelling his name and he doesn't respond, so something told me to listen. I heard him get back into his car and he started talking to this female that sound like she was close to him perhaps in the passenger seat. So you hear him talking to her about her body, and some other stuff, and as I am listening I'm literally shaking and saying to myself "I hope it's not what I think it is". So I hung up and called the number back in which he called originally and he didn't pick up so I finally had my best friend call the number back on 3 way and he answered. I asked him who is that girl that you are with and he pretended as if he had no clue what I was talking about. Now let me point out the whole time he was having this converstation with this female I did not hear his cousin speak at all. So I told him what I heard and he said yea it's me my cousin and his friend (why didn't he mention the other friend when he was telling me who he was with before?) I decided to hang up because all he did was laugh and say "oh my god" I can't believe this. About 30 min later he calls from his house phone (cell phone is off) trying to explain it's not what I think it is they were all having a conversation and I am sorry his story did not sound believable. What do you guys think about this, put yourself in my shoes and tell me how would you react? This is really bad because I have fallen really hard for this guy and I just hope it's not what I think it is. I want us to be together but it's going to be extremly hard to go through things like this. Please help guys, I need as much feedback and advice as I can get. Thanks
littlekitty Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I think you're instinct is right. Very right to be honest. Infact I know of someone who was caught out the exact same way.. didn't lock their phone, dialled their SO without knowing while they were with the OW. Stupid... and nasty. So you still don't know who the number belonged to? Sounds like it's another girl, but doubtless she won't answer if she sees your number now. Eh.... it just sounds too suspicous to me. Sorry.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Although it does sound suspicious, I know in the past some things like that have happened to me where it "sounded" like something was going on when it wasn't. In fact, something happened just a little while back w/me and my SO and I felt so bad but it wasn't completley how it looked and I felt bad because he didn't believe me. I'm not sticking up for him, he could very well have been lying to you. If I could have heard the convo then I would be able to make a better judgement. I guess maybe you should go with your instinct and gut on this one.
Author beautifulnpink22 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Well actually my boyfriend claimed that it was his cousins phone. And when the phone goes to voicemail music plays no voice. So I'm not really sure. He claimed that his cousin has a prepaid phone. But the weird thing is when he called me from his phone his cousin calls my best friend (that dialed from her phone) I guess from his house phone asking "did someone call my phone" and I think they some how planned that out so I would automatically assume that was his phone. Why didn't he call from the phone originally, and when I called from various number his cousin didn't pick up. It just sounds really fishy to me.
catgirl1927 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 It sounds very fishy. His coverups sound really convenient.
Author beautifulnpink22 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Thanks All. Is there anyone else who can give their opinion on this. I need as much feed back as I can get. Thanks
tanbark813 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 It does sound shady. The laughing in your face is a bad sign. Not only is it insensitive but I've had girls in the past use laughing as a defensive tactic. Also, and not to get all conspiracy theory-like on you , but it's possible that you didn't get called back accidentally the second time. If it was what it sounds like, the girl could have discreetly dialed you back on purpose so you could hear what was going on without your BF knowing.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Also, and not to get all conspiracy theory-like on you , but it's possible that you didn't get called back accidentally the second time. If it was what it sounds like, the girl could have discreetly dialed you back on purpose so you could hear what was going on without your BF knowing. Oohhh good thinking Tan!! So you would get mad and break up with him and he would be all hers!! The man-stealing bitch!!! My question is though, why did he bother to call her at all? Why not wait until he could have used the cousin's phone to make it less obvious?
JustWantToBeHappy Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 I agree with Tim's Angel. Why would he call from a cellphone of a girl with which he was cheating, knowing you'd see the number? I'm not saying he's totally innocent. My guess is, he was hanging out with his cousin possibly along with others (girls & guys). Probably flirting and what not. If it were just him and his cousin and his cousin's female friend, then why wouldn't he have asked you to come along? The story is definitely a bit fishy but I doubt the cell he called from belongs to the girl you need to worry about.
Author beautifulnpink22 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 No my boyfriend is not the type of individual that asks me to come along when he is with his friends. The only time I am invited somewhere is when his mom is going to bingo, or atlantic city so we would go along with her. That's about it. I don't believe that he was calling from the girls phone, I'm sure it was his cousins phone, but why did he just mention that he was with his cousin instead of mentioning the friend? He tells me after I questioned him that he is with his cousin and his cousin's friend. It's really sad that I have to do this whole investigation thing. If only he were honest from the beginning of our relationship, I wouln't have so many questions.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 No my boyfriend is not the type of individual that asks me to come along when he is with his friends. The only time I am invited somewhere is when his mom is going to bingo, or atlantic city so we would go along with her. That's about it. I don't believe that he was calling from the girls phone, I'm sure it was his cousins phone, but why did he just mention that he was with his cousin instead of mentioning the friend? He tells me after I questioned him that he is with his cousin and his cousin's friend. It's really sad that I have to do this whole investigation thing. If only he were honest from the beginning of our relationship, I wouln't have so many questions. Yea, it all definately sounds fishy!! The more I hear about it, the more I'm thinking if I were in your shoes, I'd do something about it. Too must stuff not adding up!!
Author beautifulnpink22 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 U know what I am too the point where I am tired of recking my brain with this. If he can just be honest, that would help a great deal. And because of things like this I find it so hard to trust him, but at the same time I love him so much. I don't know how much I am going to be able to take. There is no reason for him to have to lie to me about anything, just be upfront. The truth may hurt, but I would rather be told the truth than to be told a lie and find out that it was a lie I was being told.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 U know what I am too the point where I am tired of recking my brain with this. If he can just be honest, that would help a great deal. And because of things like this I find it so hard to trust him, but at the same time I love him so much. I don't know how much I am going to be able to take. There is no reason for him to have to lie to me about anything, just be upfront. The truth may hurt, but I would rather be told the truth than to be told a lie and find out that it was a lie I was being told. Just make sure you love yourself just as much if not more!! Don't let him walk over like this, that is if you really feel his is fiddling around behind your back
l2hvn Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 No my boyfriend is not the type of individual that asks me to come along when he is with his friends. The only time I am invited somewhere is when his mom is going to bingo, or atlantic city so we would go along with her. That's about it. . Red flag #1. He never invites you to go out with his friends. Red flag #2. He wasn't honest of who he was with. Red flag #3. He was obviously flirting/making sexual remarks about a girl's body. So there. Trust your instinct.
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