doublem316 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Hey everyone, my ex who i, unfortunately, am still in love with, e-mailed me today to see how i was. I promised myself i'd do NC, but like an idiot i e-mailed back and we got into a conversation (nothing about us or anything, just general chatter). i've told her many times before that i need time by myself but she keeps calling or e-mailing saying she does'nt want to lose my friendship. there is so much i want to say to her and have never brought up in the past year since we have broken up. Now is a terrible time because she is having a tough time with an anxiety disorder she suffers from and has just starting dating again. i really don't want to put her under any more pressure but there are so many things i need to get off my chest! any advice? should i just leave it alone or tell her everything? its driving me mad!
riobikini Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Her email to you may simply be a part of her tendancies having plenty to do with her disorder. And you need to ask yourself if you can *really, *really* do the 'friendship' thing. -Rio
Kengne Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Hey everyone, any advice? should i just leave it alone or tell her everything? its driving me mad! she keeps calling and emailing because your ACTIONs don't match your WORDS i.e. you ANSWER the phone when she calls, even though you've SAID you need time by yourself. you cannot control HER calling & emailing, but you CAN control YOU answering and responding. NC is for YOU to enforce - not HER. next... as to spilling your guts to her a year post-breakup - what exactly, are you trying to achieve? are u trying to win her back, or are u looking for closure? either ways, you really don't NEED to tell her anything. if you were practicing NC, you wouldn't even be in contact now and this wouldn't be a dilemma. and last.. if u really are so worried abt her mental health... then don't say nuttin'! good luck, and NC all the way! k.
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