michmash81 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Hi all I'm new to this. I had a friend tell me all about this site so I thought I'd give it a try and maybe you all can help me. I have been married for four years. W/my hubby came his 4 yr old daughter at that time and then we have a little boy. I'm 24 and I'm raising 2 kids pretty much on my own. He is never around to help or always on the computer and doing his little games. He doesn't help me out w/anything.. Period! My best friend moved so I thought I'd spend a lot of time w/her. Here is another bit of information I take the kids everywhere I go. EVERYWHERE~ Yesterday he went to the bar Let's add this we are broke broker than broke and he decides to yell at me about being broke and having no money but he goes to the bar. Anyways he calls me when he is home and is like what's for dinner I forgot to leave some ribs w/him and when I told him that he kinda got an attitude and retarded. I'm like whatever and decide to stay at my friends house longer to avoid the arguing when I got him. Now when I did go home a couple hours later he had thrown my pillow and a blanket in the hallway so I knew he was pissed. Didn't stop me from sleeping in my bed though. This morning and today he said nothing to me. Today I spent the day w/my two best friends cuz like I said one of them is moving and I was taking her and her hubby to the grey hound!!! When I got home he was mowing the grass and didn't say s*** to me. Then when he came in the house I tried talking to him and he said that he didn't want to talk to me and didn't know when he would be willing to cuz he was super pissed off at me. I'm like ok. I'm needing someone right now cuz my best friend left and he couldn't be there for me. After this I have thought is this marriage worth it when we fight we fight and its over stupid s*** and when he is done w/it it is over. I'm at my wits end. I want a man that is caring and supporting and I totally feel like he isn't. I don't know what to do.. Please help
stacym75 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Is there more to this story ,like how long has this been going on ?Maybe u need to post this in the marriage part of this forum.Dig deep and let it all out.Give detail instances.People will respond.
amaysngrace Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Is there more to this story ,like how long has this been going on ?Maybe u need to post this in the marriage part of this forum.Dig deep and let it all out.Give detail instances.People will respond. Well, I would be leary of having friends here and spilling my guts to this site, if I were you. Especially if it was recommended by a friend. Bottom line, when you're married, your husband should be your best friend. Don't disrespect him here and think it will help your marriage, okay? I don't mean to freak you out, I just think you should proceed with caution when giving intimate details relating to your marriage.
Author michmash81 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 here is the thing he is not my friend not even close right now.. he isn't there when i need him.. period
amaysngrace Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 here is the thing he is not my friend not even close right now.. he isn't there when i need him.. period I understand that, Michmash. But that could be half your problem right there. You do whatever you can to avoid him and he does the same to you. You two should keep your mouths shut concerning your sacred relationship, and if you need to say something about it, take it to each other. That's what communication is all about. If you find a way to vent your feelings to everyone else, and he does the same, you two will NEVER be on the same page. And if you lack skills in communicating, (ie: arguing instead of speaking), you should go for couple's counseling to work on it. If you contact your local women's center, you may see it can be available at no or low cost to you. You owe it to the children.
Author michmash81 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 I understand everything you are saying but he shoved me to the wind when I needed him. I hurt and it still does so I don't think I'm ready to talk to him myself but I do want to get it off my chest...
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Dear Michmash, Have you ever considered journaling to get it off your chest? You can pick up a spiral notebook for cheap. I know these sites are to help people with problems, I totally understand that, but considering that you have people that you know in real life looking on, I would just approach it all lightly when it comes down to the nitty-gritty. You don't want to spill your guts and have it someway get back to him, do you? Grace
Author michmash81 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 Grace the lady on here that knows me knows everything already she is a good friend of mine and doesn't know my hubby from adam. I just need help and was looking for people to talk to on here.
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Well then I guess if you feel it's safe, fire away
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