flamingo Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend calls him every few days or so, for no reason other than to tell him what she's doing or to ask what he's doing. I don't have a problem with that-- they were together for 2 and a half years, I can see how they might still talk every now and then. Last night, however, I was on the phone with him and she called. He asked if I could hold on for a minute, I said sure. A couple minutes passed and he got back on the line and asked if he could call me back because she was crying about something. I said alright, and he said he'd call back in five minutes. An HOUR later, he calls and said he was really sorry, he just couldn't get her off the phone. She told him that she made the biggest mistake of her life by leaving him. He told her that he didn't know what to tell her-- she left him and he's happy now with me. He told her all good things about me and how I am so wonderful, etc. She called him back with some comment, I can't remember. At first I was mad because it took him a whole hour to call me back, but then after I found out what they talked about, I didn't care so much. Today, I was on the phone with him. She called again. He asked me to hang on, I did, then a couple minutes later he asked if he could call me back. Irritated this time, I said sure. He called me back about 5 minutes later and apologized, I kind of said yeah, alright. He could tell something was wrong and asked me. I told him that I didn't know why she has to call him all the time, and he said he didn't know it made me mad, but he's sorry. I told him that I didn't really care that much if they still talked every once in awhile, but him asking to call me back so he can talk to her doesn't sit too well with me. He felt bad and said it wouldn't happen again. It's been bothering me all day. I feel like she wouldn't call if he wasn't encouraging it in some way. He told me he doesn't want to be with her, he wants to be with me, so I probably shouldn't have anything to worry about, but it's all I can think about. So here's my question: Should I tell him that I don't want her calling him anymore? I'm not trying to tell him who he can and can't talk to, but I feel uneasy about it. I have never had to deal with this type of thing before, and I don't know what to do! I need some input. (And sorry for such a long post)
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