Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I'm not for or against "hearing what I want to hear". However, a little more tact could be had, if you need to basically bash someone for how they FEEL. You can't invalidate how someone else feels. That's not how feelings work. We feel what we feel, not what others tell us we should feel, or in the time others think we should feel it. So, but you telling me to "get a grip and no wonder I 'lost' so many men", well, I feel that's certainly not constructive. Yeah, but when it's self inflicted injury, it's pretty hard to get compassion from others no matter how much empathy they may have for you. You created this mess, right, why aren't you straight with him. Like my Spanish friend Ramon puts it..."Que sera..sera" Whatever will be, will be. -Sapiens
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 LOL, are you for real? Dude, get a grip, no wonder you lost many men. If you keep like this I am truly afraid for the guy that ties the knot with you. Eww.. -Sapiens Wow, talk about insensitive. What is your problem? I thought this forum was supposed to be about supporting and trying to help each other. Your harsh words are not supportive or helping in any way. You can believe what you said to be true, but try to think of a nicer way to say things. Seriously, you are just out and out rude and insensitive.
Author AriaIncognito Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Yeah, but when it's self inflicted injury, it's pretty hard to get compassion from others no matter how much empathy they may have for you. You created this mess, right, why aren't you straight with him. Like my Spanish friend Ramon puts it..."Que sera..sera" Whatever will be, will be. -Sapiens I don't see where I've not been straight with him. I want to be with him. Due to our religious differences, he is unsure if he should pursue a relationship with me due to potentially upsetting his family. Where is this me being not straight with him? If it were up to me, I'd not have to give him space to think. I'd be with him.
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I don't see where I've not been straight with him. I want to be with him. Due to our religious differences, he is unsure if he should pursue a relationship with me due to potentially upsetting his family. Where is this me being not straight with him? If it were up to me, I'd not have to give him space to think. I'd be with him. Why don't you convert? Problem solved, right? Wow, this is tough, I do understand you. Destiny is so hard on us..... .... .. . -Sapiens
l2hvn Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Ariawoman, You're doing great keeping NC. Know that it's normal to feel the way you feel. Everybody feels that way at one point. You know you're doing what's best for you, because you love yourself more. In the meantime, keep yourself busy. Go to the gym. Do yoga. Hang out with your gfs. Volunteer. Learn a new hobby. Also, the easiest way to get over your ex is to go out on a date with another guy. Go out there and be available. Stay strong and keep your head up.
LifeinLimbo Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Hey Ariawoman, Thanks for the encouragement, it really helped. Also, thank you for sharing your feelings in your 1:19pm post today. I've felt a lot of those same feelings that you expressed. I also have friends, male and female, who have felt the same. Feeling hopeless, feeling lost, not being able to sleep. Please keep us up to date on how you're doing. Sapiens' comment was very cold. I don't understand why a comment was posted on a breakup support board saying that breaking up is easy and that you should get over it. If that were the case, I doubt that this site would exist and it surely wouldn't be as popular as it is. If there's any passion or emotion in a relationship it's not easily forgotten.
Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Hey Ariawoman, Thanks for the encouragement, it really helped. Also, thank you for sharing your feelings in your 1:19pm post today. I've felt a lot of those same feelings that you expressed. I also have friends, male and female, who have felt the same. Feeling hopeless, feeling lost, not being able to sleep. Please keep us up to date on how you're doing. Sapiens' comment was very cold. I don't understand why a comment was posted on a breakup support board saying that breaking up is easy and that you should get over it. If that were the case, I doubt that this site would exist and it surely wouldn't be as popular as it is. If there's any passion or emotion in a relationship it's not easily forgotten. You know, you are correct. On reading my reply I seem to have lost touch with my emotions. Yes, I need to develop more of a kind and understanding attitude. My apologies Aria, I hope you recover from your pain........... -Sapiens
Author AriaIncognito Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Why don't you convert? Problem solved, right? Wow, this is tough, I do understand you. Destiny is so hard on us..... -Sapiens I'm not totally against the idea, but I'm not going to convert for someone who can't even decide if he wants to be seriously dating me. That's putting the cart waaaaaaay before the horse. Jennifer
LifeinLimbo Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 Hey ariawoman, I was just wondering how the NC was going? Have things gotten better?
Author AriaIncognito Posted June 14, 2006 Author Posted June 14, 2006 Things are basically as they always were. We spoke last night for several hours, until 5 am. He still doesn't know what he wants, I still want us to work out. It's all so very frustrating. I know I should move on, so why can't I. I wish there was a pill to take when we weren't feeling strong enough to deal with things. Jennifer
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