waitingforlove Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Hi everyone, Would any of you please give me some opinions: My ex broke up with me, and after a lot of emotional turmoil, I finally let him go. I've been doing no contact for about two weeks now, and I'm starting to feel better. However, he emailed me two days ago, and wanted to see how I was doing, what I was up to, etc. He did say that he wanted to remain friends when we broke up, but the fact that he emphasized so much about "liking our FRIENDSHIP" really upset me. I would like to be friends in the long term, but right now .... no, I know I can't be friends with him. So my question is: Should I write him back or not? Honestly, I don't feel excited about his email anymore, and I don't really feel like writing back. On the other hand, I don't want to be "mean" by not replying to his email. What do you think?
Big_A Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Don't write back. If friendship is really in your future it can happen after you heal. In the mean time DELETE his emails and voicemails. Don't worry about being rude, he broke your heart, you're not being rude you are healing.
Yoyito Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Don't write back. If friendship is really in your future it can happen after you heal. In the mean time DELETE his emails and voicemails. Don't worry about being rude, he broke your heart, you're not being rude you are healing. i'd have to agree with this.
Spitkicker Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 please please please I beg you. DO NOT WRITE BACK. You'll look weak if you write back. He'll string you along... if he really wanted to get back with you.. he'll make you know it.. he'll show it to you. It sounds like you know that you shouldn't write back, but your "curiosity killed the cat" attitude might be your downfall. Please show some restraint.
RealBroken Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I think you should write back......... but only to tell him you want some space and no contact with him until you're .......YOU'RE ready. This means he wont be hurt....... his ego maybe bruised, but you are in control.
rkman Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 If you aren't over him completely and want to be, Write back saying that you're ok but aren't prepared to be friends yet. Tell him that he has made his decision and that you deserve the space to deal with it if he wants to eventually be friends later on. You can't speak with him if you aren't ready. Keep it SHORT and simple.
overseas2004 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Listen dont write back. No most definately dont. Let me give you a story that you may relate to. A little while back my guy broke up with me. But before he did he said "give me three days to think about it". When the three days passed I called him and couldnt find him. I ended up calling until I did find him. Made a j_ack _ss out of myself. There is one thing people cant stand and its teh worst you can do to them and that is IGNORE THEM. Do me a favor and yourself. Ignore him.
ronnieromance Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Don't write back. If friendship is really in your future it can happen after you heal. In the mean time DELETE his emails and voicemails. Don't worry about being rude, he broke your heart, you're not being rude you are healing. X3 and QFT -R-
Author waitingforlove Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 Hi everyone, Thanks so much for all your opinions! It sounds like it's a general consent not to write him back -- fortunately, I still haven't, and after reading your opinions, I have decided that I won't. Ya that's right ... he broke my heart, so why should I worry about being mean? If it's meant to be, it will be ... but even then, right now I'm finally starting to be doing fine, so I don't want to jump back into a relationship with him anyway. I'll hang in there and be strong -- thanks again for your advice!
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