longlegzs80 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I'm attracted to this one guy. I think he is a very shy guy, and when we talk alittle bit he has a shyness about him. Well, I'm about to spell it out to him that I find him really hot and was wondering if he would like to go out with me sometime. We don't know eachothers names, but we talk about schooling and I ask him alot of questions. I think this guy is interested in me, but when I do go into the store where he works, his boss is always there checking me out. This guy that I am interested in shys away. MAn, do I have to show him a nipple to get him to move forward with feeling comfortable with me, or what? He is someone I look at and want him to show me some more interest. I been wondering what kind of reaction I would get out of him if I told him I find him really hot and was wondering if sometime he would like to go out with me. To me he strikes me as someone who doesn't get asked out. Hey, I just want to see where I stand, do I continue to pursue or do I back off. Well, I seem to do everything. My smile is always ear to ear, I look him straight in the eye as he does to me. I show interest. I just want him to show more interest in me. What signs should I watch for from a guy who shows interest in a woman?
Outcast Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Forget telling him he's hot. You'll probably scare him to death. Just say you'd like to get to know him better and ask him to join you for a coffee or lunch.
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 I don't understand why guys check me out, seem interested but don't further the process. They stare, the may smile, they may make small talk, but nada. What are some ways I can interest this guy more? I know form fitting clothes is working...what else? HELP IS NEEDED....want to make some moves but need advice ASAP. THANK YOU
Sand&Water Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I don't understand why guys check me out, seem interested but don't further the process. They stare, the may smile, they may make small talk, but nada. Right on! That's exactly what happens to me. I don't understand it either. I, sincerely, don't know what to tell you since I'd like to know too. Those guys annoy me. All the signs are there but they DON'T respond. Are they hesitant or just shy?? It makes me mad! Ideas: Maybe you can do a nice gesture for him. Hopefully he'll pick up on that. Also, try to project positive, and flirty body langauge.
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 OMG, I thought I was the only one who has this problem. Seems like lots of girls can meet men so easily. But then too I see how they act around them and they are easy and very flirtatious. Flirtatious is something I need to master, being easy and is something I won't do. You gave some great advice, being positive and flirtatious is definitly something to consider and work on. I find alot of girls now adays seem to get men left and right. As far as I go, that don't happen. And I do my far share of showing interest. Hmmm, hey I find this something common that I have ran across in the past couple months. Men have mood swings sometimes worse then women. Anywho, I am really interested in knowing what kinds of things guys go for? Is there something I have to do to get their attention fully, other then anything that revolves around nudity? Help us single sisters out, please loveshack forum.
Sand&Water Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I find alot of girls now adays seem to get men left and right. As far as I go, that don't happen. And I do my far share of showing interest. Tell me about it! I try to do the same, to some extent, but it's very rigorous out there in the dating scene. Cat-fights all the time, women crawling up your back trying to snatch the good looking guy next to you. Very competitive. Instead of going around the bush, several times, and wasting time and energy. You should just ask him out. Plain and simple. No one wants a player, and it seems like this guy is giving off a "player/hard-to-get" type of vibe.
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 No, I don't get a player image out of him. He strikes me as a shy guy. But I find it so hard to talk to him, then customers come in. I only asked out one guy in my life and he never took me up on my offer to possibly go do something sometime, so unless I am getting a feeling his is really interested. Then maybe. But I want to know for sure. I won't be bold and tell him he is hot because it would probubly make him scared and run off. I don't know. Help is needed. What is it about some women/girls that gets them noticed and talked to by guys?
Yamaha Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 You have to be approachable. This means you smile and give eye contact and let a guy know, if he is interested, you are giving him the ok to approach you. Giving compliments are very effective in showing interest. You could tell him he looks nice and he should give you a call.
Rosalind Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 *ahem*..don't you think a good start would be asking his name???
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 *ahem*..don't you think a good start would be asking his name??? Oh I definitly agree. But even when I ask a guys name, show interest, I still feel as if I get mixed signals. they smile, show interest and nothing. But the name thing is a must to know. Thank you.
Guest Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I dont understand women. They complain about , "I flirt, talk, try and let him know Im interested, he seems like he is, but doesnt ask me out" Women, we are in the 21st century. The doors are wide open to you, for getting an education, athletics, in the workplace. Why in this day and age do women expect men to do the asking out?
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 I dont understand women. They complain about , "I flirt, talk, try and let him know Im interested, he seems like he is, but doesnt ask me out" Women, we are in the 21st century. The doors are wide open to you, for getting an education, athletics, in the workplace. Why in this day and age do women expect men to do the asking out? You know what. I find that it would just be a nice thing to get asked out by a guy. I have only had one serious relationship where the guy asked me out. And I understand that there should be nothing stoping a women from asking a guy out, but I feel as if I am doing everything all the time, the flirting, the talking etc. etc., and it is hard for me to read a guy to know if I should even ask him out or if he isn't interested. So, I am just wondering if this guy is someone who shows interest or what in me.
Hitman10000 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Right on! That's exactly what happens to me. I don't understand it either. I, sincerely, don't know what to tell you since I'd like to know too. Those guys annoy me. All the signs are there but they DON'T respond. Are they hesitant or just shy?? It makes me mad! Ideas: Maybe you can do a nice gesture for him. Hopefully he'll pick up on that. Also, try to project positive, and flirty body langauge. Women, and the author of the original post. Some guys do the same thing you girls do. Complain that the other gender isn't reacting the way you thought they would based on your experiences or others experiences. The thing is perhaps the both of you are not compatible. Believe it or not, an attractive girl who I would later find out has a kid at age of 20, has had 5 boyfriends by then even though she is attractive once she has told me those things, her value just dropped below me equal to some really fat or ugly chick. I like my woman at equal or higher value than me. Listen ladies, appearances aren't everything, but reputation/personality is TO ME, not for some guys who are desperate or don't really care about compatibility.
elijahBailey Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 hey longlegzs, yer makin' it more difficult than it really is. Slip him a napkin with yer phone number on it and say .... 'hey, listen I gotta run but let's do coffee sometime ok... ' if he doesn't call then move on. I personally would be flattered if the girl makes the first moves. It's pretty darned cool. Do flirt, but don't overdo it cuz it does scare some guys off, especially if they are shy.
Tinman Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 *ahem*..don't you think a good start would be asking his name??? Why that's so crazy it just might work! Seriously though, introduce yourself. For all he knows maybe you're just a really nice outgoing person. He might be assuming that you're this way with everybody. I notice you're seeing him when he's at work, maybe he worries that it would be innappropriate to hit on one of the customers. In any case, there are an awful lot of "maybes" here and you could sit there trying to analyze the situation forever. Or, second possibility. Introduce yourself. If you want to be direct, ask him out. If you'd like to be a little more coy, give him your number.
runner Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 i think EB is right on the money. if you really got the hots for this 'shy guy', go ahead and make the first move. an ex of mine gave me her number in a friendly non-threatening way, i thought it was nice of her so i called. spent a good couple years together after that if he doesn't call, at least you know and can move on with your life.
Nick8767 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 You ladies are crazy I'll tell you what. I worked with this girl who was gorgeous and she didn't have a boyfriend. I introduced myself right away and she like jumped at the opportunity to introduce herself as well with a big smile on her face. Didn't expect that, but anyways, a couple weeks pass by and shes being all flirtatious ya know, throwing little things at me to get my attention and made the extra efforts on lunch break to sit next to me even when it was inconvenient for her. The signs were all there, I'm telling you. So I ask her out and she says ok. Then I call her a few days later and she's like, "ummmm...it's probably not a good idea since we work so close..." I was thinking are you flippin crazy girl? But I said, "Oh that's cool" Never worked with her again since as fate would have it. Girls can be so strange.
crazy_grl Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 I don't understand why guys check me out, seem interested but don't further the process. They stare, the may smile, they may make small talk, but nada. What are some ways I can interest this guy more? I know form fitting clothes is working...what else? HELP IS NEEDED....want to make some moves but need advice ASAP. THANK YOU You have to use more than your body to get a decent guy's attention. Wearing form fitting clothes is a good way to get guys to check you out, but it's not how you get them to ask you out. (I'm talking decent guys, not guys who are just looking to get laid.) Based on the fact that many of your comments have been floating in the shallow end of the pool, I'd say maybe the guys aren't asking you out because you're trying to lure them in completely with your looks and not your personality. You may come across as shallow and superficial, like you're just interested in getting guys to check you out.
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 You have to use more than your body to get a decent guy's attention. Wearing form fitting clothes is a good way to get guys to check you out, but it's not how you get them to ask you out. (I'm talking decent guys, not guys who are just looking to get laid.) Based on the fact that many of your comments have been floating in the shallow end of the pool, I'd say maybe the guys aren't asking you out because you're trying to lure them in completely with your looks and not your personality. You may come across as shallow and superficial, like you're just interested in getting guys to check you out. That is interesting you say that. I wouldn't say I am shallow or superficial, just being myself. I am comfortable with myself in a sense where I have confidence and lately I been very confident in myself and feeling somewhat good. And the way I look, how I dress, brings out this confidence, then I can show more confidence. Anyways, I apreciate your advice. Thank you.
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 So, I decided to go into my boys store to get acouple things. I felt pretty good, confident wise, wearing comfortable clothing and gave him a very nice warm smile. He seemed alot more outgoing this time, talkative, but not too talkative. Very nice, helpful too. I was focused on his body language. He was facing towards me, looking me straight in the eyes when we talked, smiling, smiling at me as he asked if he could help me with the door. Does this show interest or what? Its like he was a different person when his boss wasn't around. I get a feeling like his boss is into me, but could be wrong about that. What do you think????? And yes, in the one post about wearing tight fitting clothing that I mentioned about, it was very shallow of me. That isn't like me usually.
Noos Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 A guy once told me that guys don't like it when girls ask them out becuase it makes them think the girls is desperate. So which is it guys - should legs do the asking and risk appearing desperate or she wait for him and risk making little to no progress?
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