Alexandra-Girl Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Hi everyone, Not to sure where to post this one. It's a wee bit odd. Details: Started seeing this man about a month ago. We see eachother on the weekends and email one another nightly. My email program sends automatic read receipts to me. I have received two email receipts now. One indicating his reading, and NOW (three days later) a second indicating another persons reading. What the hell? These are private emails that I would expect him only to be reading, yet he is forwarding them to someone else??? Need answer to: How do I ask him about this without causing issues so early in our relationship? He's a wonderful guy, but this is not acceptable behavior for me. Thanks, Alexandra
PandorasBox Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Do you know the name of the email its being forwarded too? I'm assuming these are emials met for his eyes only. So not like typical emails people pass back and forth like funny ones or jokes amoung friends/family etc?
Art_Critic Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 He is most likely forwarding them to another email account of his.. I do that all the time.. Besides my work email I have a couple of yahoo and a hotmail account..
Author Alexandra-Girl Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 Hi there, Unfortunately, only his email adress shows up (yahoo provider). The forwarded one only shows an IP address indicating that this new person has opened it (which is also a different provider; comcast). So I can't even ask him why John Doe is reading my emails. You're right, they aren't the FWD: type emails either. Thanks, Alexandra
Art_Critic Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 He is forwarding them to HIMSELF and HE is reading them..
alphamale Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I do that all the time.. Besides my work email I have a couple of yahoo and a hotmail account.. Is that to keep the I.R.S. off your track A_c??? Any money laundering going on also?
JadeStar Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Ok I'm lost. Why would he send them to another emial account he has, if he already has one that she sent it to and read it from that account? Sorry just trying to understand. Jade
Author Alexandra-Girl Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 JadeStar - Great question. If anyone can make sense of that one, please do. This is a bizzar situation. Alexandra
Art_Critic Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Ok I'm lost. Why would he send them to another emial account he has, if he already has one that she sent it to and read it from that account? Sorry just trying to understand. Jade It sounds to me that he forwarded his yahoo email to his home email account.. what is weird about that ? I do that all the time.. My Aol email automatically forwards to my work email.. I have multiple email addys for different uses and only give certain ones to certain people.. For example.. All my online purchases are done thru my Aol email and forwarded to my work email and the Aol email addy changes every 6 months or so. that way my work email is never given out on the web for purchases.. Same thing with my LS email given here.. it is specific and only for LS
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Ok I'm lost. Why would he send them to another emial account he has, if he already has one that she sent it to and read it from that account? Sorry just trying to understand. Jade Maybe she sends them to his word addy and he sends them to his personal one?
lovelifelots Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 ok..... i have 2 email accounts... one i rarely use (msn) this came with the messenger service..... sometimes ppl send emails to that account and as i rarely use it.... i dont like it (the lay out etc) so i will forward them to my other account, the one im more familiar with?..... hope this helps? probably not tho lol
JadeStar Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 It sounds to me that he forwarded his yahoo email to his home email account.. what is weird about that ? I do that all the time.. My Aol email automatically forwards to my work email.. I have multiple email addys for different uses and only give certain ones to certain people.. For example.. All my online purchases are done thru my Aol email and forwarded to my work email and the Aol email addy changes every 6 months or so. that way my work email is never given out on the web for purchases I guess theres nothing "weird" about it. Seems pretty pointless though. I mean read an email from one account but yet send to another, for no real purpose I suppose. Guess its more understandable it theres a business involved or something, hell I don't know. Jade
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 It sounds to me that he forwarded his yahoo email to his home email account.. what is weird about that ? I do that all the time.. My Aol email automatically forwards to my work email.. I have multiple email addys for different uses and only give certain ones to certain people.. For example.. All my online purchases are done thru my Aol email and forwarded to my work email and the Aol email addy changes every 6 months or so. that way my work email is never given out on the web for purchases.. Same thing with my LS email given here.. it is specific and only for LS Yea I have several email accounts too. This is a big possibility. I would certainly find out before I accuse him of anything. Maybe some day in a conversations casually ask him if he has any other email accounts.
JadeStar Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 ok..... i have 2 email accounts... one i rarely use (msn) this came with the messenger service..... sometimes ppl send emails to that account and as i rarely use it.... i dont like it (the lay out etc) so i will forward them to my other account, the one im more familiar with?..... hope this helps? probably not tho lol "probably not tho"
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I guess theres nothing "weird" about it. Seems pretty pointless though. I mean read an email from one account but yet send to another, for no real purpose I suppose. Guess its more understandable it theres a business involved or something, hell I don't know. Jade Not really. I have an email account for my junk (one I use for signing up for different things I know will give me junk mail) One for my personal use, like friends... and another I just made up to make a second account somewhere (can't remember) not to mention ones that come with messangers Also, This is something I do sometimes. I will resend emails to the same addy so that I wont lose them or remember to get them the next day. If it only shows IP addy then you wouldn't even know
dgiirl Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 he could be simply backing up his email too. yahoo and other free services are not always dependable and if it was a really meaningful message, he probably wants to save it. But frankly, I'd ask him. "Hey, are you sending my emails to your buddies I'm getting multiple read recipients". Hopefully he'll laugh and tell me what's up.
JackJack Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I have aol and hotmail accounts. I know that when I receive something from aol it will automactially go to my hotmail account as well. I think its set up that way, becasue I don't remember setting it like that. Maybe its something like that. I still would ask him about it though as someone suggested. Just don't do it in an accustory way though. Just see how he answers you.
JohnM Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 How do you setup this mail forwarding, sounds pretty handy as I use quite a few email accounts.
vampress1 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Okay... I agree that there is probably a very simple and reasonable explaination for this (ie 2 email accts.). However, what if he really is forwarding her emails to his buddies... does anyone have any thoughts on how the OP should handle the situation in the unlikely event that he doesn't have 2 email accounts? If it happens each time you write, I would consider saying something like "I guess I must have hit that email notification button when I wrote you last... the funny thing is it sent me a couple of notifications that the email was read. What do you suppose the deal is with that?" I would play dumb... don't use and accusational tone, try to keep it light. But, like I said... I'm sure there is a reasonable explaination.
Art_Critic Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 it also could be the different ways he connects to the internet.. Comcast from home and whatever for work.. I think you need to give your guy the benefit of the doubt and stop monitoring him.. Regardless of how you look at this you are monitoring/watching him.. and that isn't right unless he has given you a reason too. You seem to have a trust issue with him.. does it come from him doing something to you or does it come from an exbf ? Please stop the receipt on your emails to him and give him some space to be human
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I have 3 emails, two yahoo, and one of my yahoo is my yahoo messenger. The other email account is for family and work - The other is play. My third is hotmail which I use rarely, mostly joining a site (like LS) and if I give out my email addy to someone, sometimes I use the hotmail as it's not my primary email. My email program sends automatic read receipts to me. I have received two email receipts now. One indicating his reading, and NOW (three days later) a second indicating another persons reading. If it keeps on happening, then just ask him why you get two read receipts from him. Don't accuse him of anything, because it honestly could be a glitch in the system...Unless it happens all the time. Another thing, try to keep your relationship OFFLINE. So, be more non personal in email. Just incase he is shipping off the emails to someone else - Though I doubt he is. Talk on the phone more and see him, rather than email and do instant messaging with him.
Author Alexandra-Girl Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Thanks for the replies guys. Very helpful. We can close the case here. I asked, of course in a non confrontational way, and received a very informative answer from him. FYI Answer - Very simple and forthright. The email account I send the emails to is his home account. He is Military, and the military has their systems on lock down. Therefore he said that he has an automatic forwarding of my emails to his work account, so he can reply as quickly as possible to me. The reason I was getting the different receipts is because all of the military emails are first read through military monitors and then sent to the respective accounts. (Talk about big brother). The monitoring has something to do with stopping negative emails that may take down moral. Unfortunately, the suggestion of phone and in person that one poster supplied doesn't fit well with our situation unless he is home. Thus we are online as much as possible via any means available. I would like to keep the receipts because of our *situation*, so this is NOT a monitoring situation, but a reassuring that things are arriving overseas situation. Once again, thanks for all your help and advice on this matter. Alexandra
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