theman101 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I started talking to a girl in one of my classes only recently and really took a liking to her. I think there was sparks but I'm unsure, and didn't make a move, and now school's over and I have no way for me to contact her. I do have her email address but she wasn't the one that gave it to me. We only talked a couple of times but the conversations were good and very flowing. She's almost two years older than I am but only one class above me. Would it be appropriate to email her, or would that be a stalker move and just weird her out?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I started talking to a girl in one of my classes only recently and really took a liking to her. I think there was sparks but I'm unsure, and didn't make a move, and now school's over and I have no way for me to contact her. I do have her email address but she wasn't the one that gave it to me. We only talked a couple of times but the conversations were good and very flowing. She's almost two years older than I am but only one class above me. Would it be appropriate to email her, or would that be a stalker move and just weird her out? Did you get the email from a mutual friend? If so, maybe you could tell the friend to mention you would like her email addess and if it was ok with her sometime.
Author theman101 Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 No, it wasn't a mutual friend unfortunately.
Forever Searching Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Go ahead an email her and just remind her who you are and how you got her email address and explain that you are really into her and didn't want to lose contact and wanted to keep in touch. Personally I'd be flattered and I wouldn't think it looks too stalkerish. You have nothing to lose so I say go for it.
Author theman101 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Well there is one thing I could lose, my reputation. But, I guess that's not very important, it's only high school. I can't wait to get out of it anyways.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Well there is one thing I could lose, my reputation. But, I guess that's not very important, it's only high school. I can't wait to get out of it anyways. OOHhh your in hight school?? Well heck, email the girl!! Email in high school is like your front door
Author theman101 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 haha, really? I really am not that familiar with her or her friends, I know stuff about her but havent gotten to know her that well. I'm wary because I didn't get the email from her.
Artscrafter Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Well, out of curiosity, where DID you get the email address? And your "reputation" in high school is only as good as the chance you'll stay in the same area. If you're not going to stay home or go to the same college as everyone else in your school, who cares? I'd go for it. (The post above sounds like a good start to how to word it.)
Author theman101 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Well, I was looking at a website for a rival soccer team of mine, and then I realized she plays for the same club. I had time so I just checked to see the teams' past performances but instead it took me to their roster with all the names and emails of the players.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Well, I was looking at a website for a rival soccer team of mine, and then I realized she plays for the same club. I had time so I just checked to see the teams' past performances but instead it took me to their roster with all the names and emails of the players. Then just tell her, "Hey I came across your email address and wanted to say hi and see how your summer is going... bla bla bla.." I wouldn't make it too long at first, just a few lines to see if she will write back I mean really, what do you have to lose right?
Author theman101 Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 "I know we don't know each other very well, but I'd like that to change. I wanted to talk to you more in person, but you always slipped away. I would really like to get to know you better. I would be interested in hanging out sometime, if you're interested. Well, I hope you have a good summer if you're not interested, and a good senior year." Sound good?
Vertex Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 High school reputation? Nobody will care about high school reputation past high school unless you hang with the same people during college. And even then, it tends to get recreated in college since everyone changes. High school is truly free reign, man -- I wish I would have been told why sooner.
vampress1 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 "I know we don't know each other very well, but I'd like that to change. I wanted to talk to you more in person, but you always slipped away. I would really like to get to know you better. I would be interested in hanging out sometime, if you're interested. Well, I hope you have a good summer if you're not interested, and a good senior year." Sound good? Uh, no! Try something like... "Hey ____, I came across your email address on the ______ roster. I hope it's all right to write to you like this. I enjoyed being in _____ class with you this year and am sorry I won't be seeing you everyday. I would love to get together sometime this summer. Maybe we can kick the ball around. You have my email address now, and here's my number. I hope to hear from you." Obviously you don't have to follow my "script" but I would make sure that what you do write reflects confidence. Your original suggestion is whimpy and timid... that's not attractive to HS girls. Good luck!
LexiB Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Obviously you don't have to follow my "script" but I would make sure that what you do write reflects confidence. Your original suggestion is whimpy and timid... that's not attractive to HS girls. Good luck! Good life lesson ~ lack of confidence is not attractive to women in general. Vampress is on the right track; you need to lose the wishy-washiness
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Uh, no! Try something like... "Hey ____, I came across your email address on the ______ roster. I hope it's all right to write to you like this. I enjoyed being in _____ class with you this year and am sorry I won't be seeing you everyday. I would love to get together sometime this summer. Maybe we can kick the ball around. You have my email address now, and here's my number. I hope to hear from you." Obviously you don't have to follow my "script" but I would make sure that what you do write reflects confidence. Your original suggestion is whimpy and timid... that's not attractive to HS girls. Good luck! Yea I'm with Vamiress. Make sure your email is in your own words, but that is something good to compare to. And yes, confidence is the key!! Good luck! Keep us posted
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 That isn't too aggressive? Hunny aggressive is good to a certain point, even necessary!! You don't want to attack her with eagerness, but you don't want to be too passive either. Women are attracted to strong men. You just have to find a balance, and you will as you get older. Just a short, confident email telling her exactly what you want, to get to know her better.
Author theman101 Posted June 9, 2006 Author Posted June 9, 2006 Message was sent last night around 11
Tim'sAngel Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Message was sent last night around 11 ::Crosses fingers::
Author theman101 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Posted June 10, 2006 Message on my voicemail, passcode to my voicemail is unknown to me, there is only 1 person that knows this number...
Tim'sAngel Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Message on my voicemail, passcode to my voicemail is unknown to me, there is only 1 person that knows this number... Um...Huh??
ashnicole Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I'd email her. Tell her you don't want to freak her out, but that you thought you two had some sort of connection, and you just wanted to know if she felt the same way. Tell her where you got the email address, if you want to. If she doesn't want to talk to you anymore, leave it at that. I always kick myself in situations like this, because I hate the "what-if's" of it all. I hate wondering what WOULD have happened, had I contacted them. I'm lucky that I jumped on the opportunity to be with my boyfriend now... because if I hadn't, I have a feeling someone else would have gotten him before I did. Do what feels right to you, do whatever is comfortable.
Author theman101 Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 Well as far as I can tell there has been no response. Although, someone left me a voicemail the night after I sent the email. I would listen to it but a passcode is required and I cannot remember it(I've tried 50 combinations of the numbers I normally use and nothing). Only a few people I know have this number and they say they didn't leave it.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Well as far as I can tell there has been no response. Although, someone left me a voicemail the night after I sent the email. I would listen to it but a passcode is required and I cannot remember it(I've tried 50 combinations of the numbers I normally use and nothing). Only a few people I know have this number and they say they didn't leave it. You can call your cell service provider and they can change your password for you
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