almostthere Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 My bf and I just moved in together 2 days ago. I am getting my stuff out of storage in 3 weeks. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. What do I do when I come accross my first wedding photos? I feel weird just throwing them away. But my bf has long ago thrown out all of his before we met and would like me to throw out mine too. But it makes me feel like i am just throwing away 10 years of my life. I dont miss my exh at all. I was the one that left so I have no regrets. is it wrong (probably) for me to want to keep these photos in a box in an attic for my kids someday?
catgirl1927 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I threw mine away. That part of my life is over, and I'm not exactly fond of those memories. No kids, though, that might make a difference.
whichwayisup Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Because of your kids, you can't throw away the wedding album. Keep them in a box and put them in the basement or attic if you have one. Your children will want them one day when they're older.
Author almostthere Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 Right...because no matter how close they get to the man I just moved in with..their dad is their dad. And they will want to see photos of us and how it all started so to speak. IMO.
Walk Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Depending on the age of your kids... if you don't wish to keep them, one of your kids might be interested in "safe keeping" them for the others. I could understand your bf's point IF you didn't have children with your ex. But those pictures hold more then just your memories, they hold your childrens past for them to be able to touch and see.
whichwayisup Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Right...because no matter how close they get to the man I just moved in with..their dad is their dad. And they will want to see photos of us and how it all started so to speak. IMO. Exactly. And hopefully the guy you're moving in with will not be offended or upset that those albums are being kept. If he puts your kids first and accepts that their dad is going to be around because of the kids, then it won't matter.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 My husband wanted to throw his out, however, I saved them in a envelope in a not used much file cabinet for his son. I thought that he may want them later in life to actually SEE pics of his parents together as he was two when they split.
IWalkAlone Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I disagree with the idea that photos of previous relationships should be thrown out, especially if there are kids. For better or worse, all photos are part of your history, a part of your life, a part of who you are. They shouldn't be displayed on the wall, but they shouldn't be destroyed either. I think spouses who insist that these albums be thrown out instead of stored in a box in a closet are insecure and immature.
ronnieromance Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I'm a guy and I'm saying f*** your BF. If he threw his out, cool. He shouldn't EXPECT you to though. If you want to do it. But not for someone else. -R-
Outcast Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I don't see why people want others to erase their past. As long as you're not hauling them out and pining over them regularly, why should anyone care if you have photos of the events of your life? Your new BF/spouse could croak and there you'd be without partner or memories. Whether good or bad, I learned lessons from my relationships and am not about to pretend they never existed. I'd rather erase memories of some of the jobs I've had
aktieb0cka Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I say keep them for the kids, I was mad at my mom when she threw stuff out. They may decide to get rid of them one day, but I would let them make that decision. I wasn't planning on displaying them out of respect for all involved, but it would have been nice to have them. It is part of my heritage.
Art_Critic Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 is it wrong (probably) for me to want to keep these photos in a box in an attic for my kids someday? Personally I think it is expected.. Don't you throw out a single one.. let your kids have them one day.. Think of their future..You and their dad won't be on this earth forever and they will want those photos.. Soooo.. just box em up
ronnieromance Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 I don't see why people want others to erase their past. As long as you're not hauling them out and pining over them regularly, why should anyone care if you have photos of the events of your life? Your new BF/spouse could croak and there you'd be without partner or memories. Whether good or bad, I learned lessons from my relationships and am not about to pretend they never existed. I'd rather erase memories of some of the jobs I've had Because they are supremely insecure. One of my webdate dates showed signs of this early on. So I fired her and the hunt continues. Having been in relationships with that girl, I know I want no parts of it anymore. It satarts out as cute concern, but very soon it's a green-eyed bitch godess. -R-
Outcast Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Because they are supremely insecure. I know. Reason enough to run like hell from one of those!!
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