ronnieromance Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 There are as many men that love morbidly obese women as there are men that love waif type women. Jennifer Don't lie Jennifer. I have no attraction to either, but the vast majority of men and boys will run after a crackhead like Kate Moss...Her little brother's name is Pete, BTW. Did you know that?
catgirl1927 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 Don't lie Jennifer. I have no attraction to either, but the vast majority of men and boys will run after a crackhead like Kate Moss...Her little brother's name is Pete, BTW. Did you know that? :lmao: :lmao:
timidity99 Posted June 9, 2006 Posted June 9, 2006 And what's the reason they're ex's now??? Look, I'm not saying I want to get married for the sake of getting married. I want to get married because I love this person and I want to live with this person for the rest of my life --- for good times and bad. I know it's a lot of hard work. But I come from a traditional, old-fashioned family. My parents have been together for over 3 decades. That's what I want. The reason that they are exes had nothing to do with their weight. The reasons they are exes is because they wanted me to move in with them but I declined. My recent ex even proposed to me but I said no.
Noos Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Hi Ms Scorpio I'm a Scorpio too and could describe myself the way you have but, as I live in ASustralia, someone would probably shoot me down for putting that into words (cultural thing). I understand where you may hav gotten your attitude about weight from. When I was in my teens and my twenties weight and looks did matter. Guys would date skiiny, self-obsessed, blonde model types and turn to me for the meotional support and friendship. I got sick of it and tried t affect the outwards changes guys are attracted to - unfortunately, I'm still single too and I'm 33. Whenever I feel that I've been left on the shelf, as you obviously do, I thibnk to myself, would I want to be married to any of the married guys I know and have met - the answer is invariably no. I can't think of anything worse than being married to someone I wasn't absolutely crazy about just because society puts pressure on me to be married by the age of 30. Hang in there. I won't tell you he'll come along when you least expect it because some people nevr met the one. You have to be able to live with yourself in case that happens to you. Me, I'd rather be alone than be married to a guy I didn't really love just so I could say I was married.
Outcast Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I like to take good care of myself, yes. I try to make sure that I'm in the best physical shape, that I look prim and proper, etc. I want to make sure that my SO does not have to have a reason to look elsewhere. Know what I mean? It's becoming clearer and clearer. To my questions about your personality, you responded with the above - more information about how wonderful you look. If you persist in believing that men are looking for looks alone and that all your focus should be on your appearance, that's a pretty good clue to how interesting a person you are. Or are not. I asked if you were fun to be with and you said you look good. Not the same thing.
eyeswideshut Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 the beautiful woman problem... don't despair. I have it too. But one co-worker summed it up pretty well the other day by saying: "if I had hips like that, I wouldn't be married either, because I'd have too many to chose from and the process of elimination would take me longer than the average person." I knew two extremely beautiful (inside and out) women. One was married very young, and suffered a long and deceitful marriage and eventually divorced. Another is still single at 60, and still beating off every man with a stick and happily dating. I tend to attract the type of men who are "confident jerks" because they seem to think because they are "up there" that I would be the perfect girl for them, but they also have incredible expectations and lots of opportunities too, so basically, no matter how perfect I would be, they'd want more or expect more. I always have the hots for nerdy guys, but a few times when I've actually flirted with them, or even try to ask them out, they would think I was "into my looks" which I am not, or just not their type "too fashion". My best guy friend says these men are "arrested" by my looks. Deep down, I am a total tomboy at heart, and nicer than a really ordinary looking person. Yet, only the really superficial rich alpha males are attracted to me. (but for the wrong reasons) Once I tried to flirt with a guy in my PhD class and he looked at me and assumed i was stupid. He actually thought he was above me intellectually, and truth be told, I don't like people who judge according to intelligence, so I hated him when he gave me that look. One guy I'm seeing now keeps saying: you are soo hot, I love your booty. I keep telling him those things don't matter, and I am actually worried of getting older when I fall for these guys, because I know that eventually, my booty will sag and they would have loved me for the wrong reasons. It's really sick!! Every day is a battle to remain modest. Every day. Its not easy. And maybe I appear narcissistic on this thread, but I am not, I'm just saying what other say about me this is not how I feel about myself. some co-workers are constantly talking about health, food, exercise. And I don't like talking about those things. I am interested in art music and literature, or the human condition. They are obessed, and then one co-worker asked me what my BMI was, and I said: I don't know, and I don't care. and she said: yeah, right. You are soo obsessed about your diet. And I'm not. She is. You see? I get abused all the time. My best friends and family can see past my exterior and I feel great with them. But I am 33 and single, and I am just waiting for a nice, regular guy to come my way too.
HokeyReligions Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 I like to take good care of myself, yes. I try to make sure that I'm in the best physical shape, that I look prim and proper, etc. I want to make sure that my SO does not have to have a reason to look elsewhere. Know what I mean? It's so weird that I feel like I have to prove myself here as far as who I am. Like I'm trying to sell myself here, or creating a dating profile. All I wanted to know is why do I feel so left behind? That's all. My husband would probably look at you and think "High Maintenance" and walk the other way. My guess is that has happened to you. "Prim, proper and in shape" doesn't always equal attractive. That can be as repellent as it is attractive. Your posts are condescending toward people you think are unattractive and that sounds like you have a major hang-up over appearances. Perhaps that is why you feel left-behind.
whichwayisup Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 It's becoming clearer and clearer. To my questions about your personality, you responded with the above - more information about how wonderful you look. If you persist in believing that men are looking for looks alone and that all your focus should be on your appearance, that's a pretty good clue to how interesting a person you are. Or are not. I asked if you were fun to be with and you said you look good. Not the same thing. Excellent point. My husband would probably look at you and think "High Maintenance" and walk the other way. My guess is that has happened to you. "Prim, proper and in shape" doesn't always equal attractive. That can be as repellent as it is attractive. Hokey, my husband would be saying the same thing. Remember at the end of the day, what counts is how you feel on the inside. Looks are not everything. And to some males, beauty can be very intimidating, especially those who "know" they're hot and give off a certain type of energy...I actually think some of the most beautiful women are the ones who are the most insecure because they have to rely on their looks most of the time, instead of their inner confidence, and personality.
timidity99 Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 The reality that alot of us want to ignore is the fact that we are getting old. Our bodies will eventually get wrinkly and not as good looking and sexy as they are now. There is a chance your significant other will look elsewhere when you both turn 70 years old if looks are that important. Looks don't matter that much to me unless I'm looking for a one night stand. The right man will not look elsewhere because of your looks.
HokeyReligions Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 There is a chance your significant other will look elsewhere when you both turn 70 years old if looks are that important. Not if you hide their bifocals! sorry, couldn't resist!
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