Brian83 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Okay ... so I remember a long time ago I posted on this website and it was very helpful to me. I had gotten out of a long relationship where I was dumped and left for another, essentially. Soooo ... I pulled out of that and met a great girl that I love deeply. She and I have become comfortable with every part of each other, for the most part. We also have a lot in common and I'd say that overall, she hasn't really done anything to wrong me in the past. So why is it that I am interested in a co-worker and I am jeopardizing our entire relationship? I don't know! I want to say that it has something to do with how my g/f (possibly soon to be ex) and I are comfortable with each other to a point where there isn't much drive to do anything outside of just be with each other. I know everything about her so the discovery part of it all is behind me. We don't really go out often and if we do, it's almost always on my dime since she doesn't have a job (though she's going to school). Before you get too frustrated with me (like ... 'poor guy, he gets to pick between two great girls') I should say that my g/f and I have an open relationship ... and this girl at work was initially going to be a prospect for a fling. Now that it has escalated beyond that into a full-blown interest, I don't know what to do. I should also say that my g/f and I had considered breaking up before (well, I considered breaking up with her) because she is way too submissive towards me and I knew it and took advantage of that. This new girl is much more independent minded and I really like that about her. She is also a bit older ... which adds to some attraction, though I have been with a much older girl before. So ... anybody have a similar experience where they fell for a new girl and left their g/f for the idea of something new and exciting? Have something to share that might be a good slap in the face to me? Anything ... I just have very little to guide me. Most people are pretty much like "well it sounds like you aren't happy with your g/f". Gah ... I have about three days to make up my mind officially. The clock is ticking! - Brian
BrandonBP Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 You didn't tell us the most important part of the equation... Which one is HOTTER?!?! Joking aside, just don't cheat on your g/f. It hurts terribly for someone to do that to you.
destination_unknown Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Leave your girlfriend it. Its as simple as that. She doesnt deserve to be second / third / fourth best and you deserve to be with someone you do actually love.
rkman Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 You don't have to have sex with someone to have cheated on them. Do you want to continue to be faithful? Do you have faith in your current woman? Do you believe she has faith in you? The world may be big, and there are definitely plenty of fish in the sea, unfortunately that's also part of the problem. Don't be selfish in life, how would you want to be treated? If you have lost faith, do you believe there is something there where it will be back? All relationships have ups and downs, whether there are negative aspects affecting them or not. You sound like my ex-girlfriend
Diver012 Posted June 8, 2006 Posted June 8, 2006 Im a little bias here, but fooling around with your co-workers can sometimes lead to problems... major ones....
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