Taking_it_Slowly Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 I was just curious as to how the affairs of many of you started... and how long did it take from the time you 'noticed' your OM/OW to the time you actually had anything physical or emotional occur??? The reason I ask is because my wife left me for her OM and they actually got married and now have 2 kids together along with the one we had together. He also left his wife and they had 2 kids together so in total that makes them both having a total of 5 blended kids. That's beside the point, I have gotten over that because I haven't been more happy than with my new wife and now I was just curious to see if most affairs are similar with one another and if they are at all similar to the situation I was in with my wife. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
littleroom Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Hmmm... well, with me it has been with a co-worker who I've known and grown close to for 5 years. The emotional affair had been building for years. We've not gotten physical to a point of doing the deed, but we have kissed and that happened within the last couple of months. So, I would say that it took 5 years for anything "physical" to happen. --- littleroom Link to post Share on other sites
oannamarie Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 For me my husband was abusiver for about a year. I met a guy at work, we were just friends but there was some attraction there. About three months later we kissed and about a week later it got a little further. Link to post Share on other sites
mylife Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Obviously all affairs are different. My H cheated on me emotionally and I believe physically off and on through our 9 years of marriage. I stayed with him through thick and thin, because I thought thats what I was supposed to do. This last time, his cheating, had put me over the edge. I then contacted a male friend of mine I had known for 4 years. I always felt this admiration for him, but remained faithful. Because of what H has done, I took it upon myself to initiate an affair. It went to a physical relationship almost instantly, but because we all ready knew each other so well, it was easy. Now, I am in an affair and I honestly feel I love my OM. When your spouse disrespects you time after time, its easy to detach and find someone else to make you feel special. Would I leave my H for my OM, YES!! I picture a life with him. It will happen, its just a matter of time. Thats my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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