akashalestat Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Heres one for the books... My girlfriend of 7 years, we're both in our 40s, had made plans to go for a late lunch after I got off work. Now, the weather was a little hot so I arrived at her house a little sweaty, when she opened the door for me I was surprisingly greeted by her in some super hot lingerie. Inside her apt. things got even hotter, she suggested that I go to my car and get some Nexcite sodas, which we supplement the action with. When I arrived back, we resumed, except she has thing about sweat--she can't stand it. (She has things about alot of things, btw). She complained vehemently about it, offending me breaking the mood. I know, you say, why not jump in the shower together? But the mood was lost. Now, I have to say, I didn't smell, I was a little sweaty about the forehead. Anyway, mood broken, i suggested we go eat anyway. she was not in the mood for that either, the mood, by the way was so thick, you'd have to use a sword to cut it. No, to that also. she suggested i go home. At home later that night, I recieved an email from her breaking up with me, citing a litany of reasons why. An email, no less. Funny thing is things were going well for a while for us up to this point. Every reason she gave for the breakup were that every thing wrong about the relationship was my fault, blaming me for everything from her being in a rut to the fact that she hasn't worked for a year. OMG, I thought it was a joke but she was serious. Next day, I picked up a few things and she stated that she is getting older and needed to find Mr. Right. I explained that I deserved better than an email. I left broken, I put way more into this relationship than she did, I tried hard to make it work. I realize now I let this relationship get way out of balance. What hurts the most is being rejected by some one you love and facing the fact, that I may never see her again or be with her. That was three weeks ago, The first two weeks were misarable. At the three week point, nearly healed i called her, she strongly said no calls, no seeing each other. It hurt, but she is right, in order for the poosibilty our relationship to work again, we both need a healing period. I feel in order for relationships to work, both sides have to give to make each other better. This was definitely not the case. I doubt she'll ever be that way, she's a trophy woman, a once Penthouse model, she looks like a french Halle Berry, and has drifted from man to man, two 5 year marriages, and has always been put upon a pedastal. She is a handful. Part of me is glad we're apart and part of me is not. It's natural for us to cling to something we love and are attached to. But, I really need to clear my energy, if we get together again, I hope I let her come to me, otherwise, we'll fall back into the same relationship. PS: we have twice broke up before and the 30 day NC works. We got back together. Third time a charm? another thing I realized, that she is unaware is that if the two people don't take responsibilty for the health of a relatonship, when we reenter the next one the same damn issues will resurface, I know, I've been in three LT relationships and it's the same issues and thing that broke them. When the going gets tough we think we are going to find that perfect person. It just doesn't happen.
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