SunShine1999 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I'm 23 and since my divorce 3 years ago, I've been approched by older men many times, but yesterday I approached an older man and began a conversation. He gave me his number and about 4 hours later, I called him At the time, I didn't know his age nor he mine, but after talking further I relaized I was nearly half his age (45). He asked my age and I was honest. My reply was "age really doesn't matter to me" We talked like we knew each other for years and I noticed some unique personality traits in him and he's probably one of the most handsome men I've ever seen. I kinda feel like I know the answer to my question, but should I pursue the relationship?....HELP
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I'm 23 and since my divorce 3 years ago, I've been approched by older men many times, but yesterday I approached an older man and began a conversation. He gave me his number and about 4 hours later, I called him At the time, I didn't know his age nor he mine, but after talking further I relaized I was nearly half his age (45). He asked my age and I was honest. My reply was "age really doesn't matter to me" We talked like we knew each other for years and I noticed some unique personality traits in him and he's probably one of the most handsome men I've ever seen. I kinda feel like I know the answer to my question, but should I pursue the relationship?....HELP Although I do believe is just a number, you have to take in consideration things like, do you want to be married in your 30's to a man thats almost 60? I am 22 and my SO is 36, and we have absolutely no problems with age. I mean of course he has gone through most of the stages in life I have not, but to me he is like my guide through it, and if it wasn't for him, I don't know what I would have done. I think it all just depends on the person. I have been interested in men in their 40's, and we both felt fine about it, but I'm not so sure how that would have worked out later on when I would be hitting my prime and my SO would have been in a wheelchair or in a nursing home. Just find out more about him before making anymore decisions. LIfe is a gamble no matter how you look at it. Is he in good shape? Does he have a healthy lifestyle? Does he smoke? Drink? Excersise? Take everything into consideration and then make a decision on whether or not you want to pursue the relationship any further. Right now, I say just date him as often as you like and have fun! It isn't like you have to commit to him tomorrow
Sand&Water Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 SunShine1999, In my honest opinion, I don't think you should get involved with this 45 year old man. You're still young, and heck you've just came out of marriage. Plus, he could be your father. I just don't see the glory in this relation. On the other hand, if you want you could date him for a few months and see how the relationship spans out. Stay safe, and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
allina Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I try to be open minded about all sorts of relationships but I have a hard time understanding the dynamic of relationships of relationships with such a great age difference. Was your husband older than you?? Getting divorced by 20 is pretty wild, but 3 years seems like plently of time to move on and figure out what you want. I personally could not have a relationship with a man old enough to be my father but, this guy may end up being amazing and someone you click with so it's hard to advise someone not to go for it based only on age. I know it's awfully judgmental to say, but I suggest really knowing what he is looking for in a younger woman if you do decide to pursue a relationship, as in make sure he doesn't want some sugar baby, younger woman to mold and control. Good luck.
Author SunShine1999 Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 We spoke again tonight (I called him) for about 1 1/2 hours tonight. He sounds like his children are the most important thing in his life. I think I'm going to give it a try. Thanks for the advice and I promice to be careful with my heart, but this guy seems like that 1 in a million. Wish me luck
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 We spoke again tonight (I called him) for about 1 1/2 hours tonight. He sounds like his children are the most important thing in his life. I think I'm going to give it a try. Thanks for the advice and I promice to be careful with my heart, but this guy seems like that 1 in a million. Wish me luck\ Good luck!! Keep us posted
honeybunch2k5 Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I say go for it. I wouldn't want to miss out on a great guy just b/c he's older. If it makes you feel better, I'm 19 and the guy I'm talking to is 39...
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