MTK Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Would you be willing to do that days after ending a long term relatioship? Would you do it in any relationship with days, weeks, months, more...? If you say that within days, does someone really mean it, or is that infatuation?
norajane Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Crushes and infatuations happen quickly. Love takes time, lots of it. If someone you just met, or someone who just broke up from a long term relationship, tells you they love you, they don't. Love is an action, not just words.
dancehead Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 I think you may be right. You could meet someone, be bowled over by them. They could really make an impression on you by lets say the 2nd date and you may start to develop feelings, but I'm not sure these feelings are love, But hey what is love anyway? They do say infactuation comes first. Saying I love you after only 3 weekends of time spent and wanting to move in with them, to me is a recipe for disaster. They hardly know each other! ( I know of this happening right now) But if love is action not just words, is the wanting to move in with somebody an example of action, lets say if they are moving miles to be with that person?
littlekitty Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 It all depends on the person saying the words and how much stock they put in them. If you believe that love is something that takes time to grow, then you're less likely to just spit out the words in days. I think younger people have a tendancy to just say the words as a way of expressing lust/infatuation/crush! I think with time and life experience, you learn that love is not something to give or take lightly and you should wait until you believe the words you're saying. Saying 'I love you' within days of ending a long term relationship, or within days full stop, isn't most likely a genuine proclamation of love.
norajane Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 But if love is action not just words, is the wanting to move in with somebody an example of action, lets say if they are moving miles to be with that person? When I say love is an action, I mean it's giving of yourself to another person. It means taking care of them when they are sick, it means listening to them when they need an ear, it means doing things for them. Love isn't so much about wanting things, like wanting to move in and pushing someone to move in with them. It could mean inviting someone to move in. It could mean making a decision to move miles to be with someone, but not if the other person hasn't asked you to or doesn't want you to.
alphamale Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 about six months to a year is right, if you really feel it...
Kengne Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Yes - I agree with the poster that said love is an action, not just the words. And you shouldn't say it, till you understand it and mean it 100%. I don't see how you can truly love someone after knowing them a few days or weeks. Sorry. IMO, that's infatuation masquerading as love, but most ppl are too blind to recognize the difference. It may eventually grow into love but it can also fizzle & burn out (and that's when some ppl think they're falling out of love, when really they prolly weren't even in love to begin with). K.
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