ahotmess Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I am 25yrs old..but have an "old soul". I work as a nurse and last month started dating this MD I've known for years. He is nice and is crazy about me. We are compatable on sooo many levels. We enjoy our time together. The only problem is with our age. He is 53...and looks it. He even has a son older than I am. That is a 28yr age difference. I am not a "gold-digger" in fact I insist on footing half the bill when we go out. I work also as a flight attendant and am gone a good deal of the time. I am very independant and am only looking for a someone to enjoy life with. but is this age difference too great to work out?
sumdude Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I am 25yrs old..but have an "old soul". I work as a nurse and last month started dating this MD I've known for years. He is nice and is crazy about me. We are compatable on sooo many levels. We enjoy our time together. The only problem is with our age. He is 53...and looks it. He even has a son older than I am. That is a 28yr age difference. I am not a "gold-digger" in fact I insist on footing half the bill when we go out. I work also as a flight attendant and am gone a good deal of the time. I am very independant and am only looking for a someone to enjoy life with. but is this age difference too great to work out? That's a question only you can answer. Ask yourself a lot of questions. Try to look 10 - 20 - 30 years into your future. Do you want children? Does he want more? One day he will get old and maybe infirm. You may end up being his wife and nurse at a somewhat young age. I'm not trying to dissuade but these are important questions anyone should ask themselves about possible spouses.
Adora Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I agree with Sumdude. You are the only one who can really answer that question. You need to sort out the things that you want in life for now, and in the future. Will he be able to offer those things down the line, if your intentions are to be with him for some time? I personally do not find age as anything else but a number. But there are other things that can and may slow things down, or make them change due to age. As simplistic as this may sound, try jotting down on a piece of paper the pro's and con's of this relationship, then compare them with what you want for your future, no matter who the man may be that you choose to share it with. With whatever you choose, I wish you the best
Kenyth Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 You can't say age is just a number. You need to be in the same general age range to make it work. I'd say a ten year difference is about as far as you'd want to go. Now, when you're both active, isn't the time you should focus on. It's 20 years down the road you want to worry about. If you have a baby, he won't be able to keep up like a younger parent. How would you like taking care of a kid AND an elderly husband? You need help to raise kids.
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