Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 whats a good frequency to call a girl that you are interested in? not every night.......I know that for sure, but every other night? and how long is long enough to talk?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 whats a good frequency to call a girl that you are interested in? not every night.......I know that for sure, but every other night? and how long is long enough to talk? Id say every other night is good at first. And don't make the convos too lengthy. It may seem fun but you will get burnt out easily (done that several times) There really isn't a set time and limit I guess, just whatever is comfortable for you. Oh yea, I'm a girl btw
catgirl1927 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Why do there have to be all these silly rules about everything!?!?!?! I hate it.
Author Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 its all about VIBES! seriously...its so confusing but i agree, every other night is cool and shows youre not needy..
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Why do there have to be all these silly rules about everything!?!?!?! I hate it. Unfortunately cat, there are "rules" because of all the mixed signals out there. You and I are now excluded from these "rules" because we have wonderful SO's that love us
Author Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 does giving a gift on a 2nd date scare a girl away or.................does it flatter? ARGH! DOH!
Walk Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I've had relationship start where the guy called every night, or nearly every night. Talked for Hours and hours. Didn't "burn out". I've had other budding relationships where I hardly talked on the phone to the guy at all. It was long enough for him to see how I was, if I was busy, and to ask me out. Neither of those relationships failed because of the calling.... I'd say play it by ear. If you're the one doing most the talking, then don't call so often.
Walk Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 does giving a gift on a 2nd date scare a girl away or.................does it flatter? ARGH! DOH! Unless it's her bday or xmas, don't give gifts to a girl that early in dating!!!! Personally I think it sets up an expectation too early in the relationship. You'll have to continue buying gifts, and pay more and more the longer you're in the relationship with her. If you buy her something great on date two, what will you have to buy her in six months to show how much you're love has grown?
catgirl1927 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Unfortunately cat' date=' there are "rules" because of all the mixed signals out there. You and I are now excluded from these "rules" because we have wonderful SO's that love us [/quote'] Rules make the Easter Bunny cry. Seriously. They just SUCK. I hate games. But it is what it is. Especially really young people, I always had a boyfriend in college so I never really played dating games.
Pyro Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 does giving a gift on a 2nd date scare a girl away or.................does it flatter? ARGH! DOH! As long as the first date went exceptionally well, I would say that something small like some candy or a single rose would not be going overboard, but nothing more then that.
Author Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 alrighty then =) 2nd dates musts: no gifts look crazy sexy cool and i Emphasize.......SEXY. girls what do you think of a sexy guy on a 2nd date? lol
catgirl1927 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 My BF brought me flowers on our second date. I was hooked.
Author Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 yea.......but giving a rose is nice........but the girl is going to have to carry through out the whole date and doesnt that put her on the spot? i think the rose idea is nice but undeserving since its only a 2nd date.....and she doesnt want to be inconviencend (sp) by carrying the damm thing lol.......girls your thoughts on that ?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 But it is what it is. Especially really young people, I always had a boyfriend in college so I never really played dating games. I've always dated men much older than me and have also avoided the "games" But for those who aren't in a relationship, it is always good to play your cards right. It is never a good idea to just throw all your feelings and interests and plans for the future on the first date right? Would you consider that a "rule"?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 alrighty then =) 2nd dates musts: no gifts look crazy sexy cool and i Emphasize.......SEXY. girls what do you think of a sexy guy on a 2nd date? lol Well hopefully a sexy guy would be sexy on the first date, and every date thereafter i don't think a small gifts like flowers would be a bad idea. Just don't go too extreme like a diamond bracelet.
Vertex Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I think "rules" are just "common-sense guidelines" that aren't always 100% ironclad, but very safe bets.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 yea.......but giving a rose is nice........but the girl is going to have to carry through out the whole date and doesnt that put her on the spot? i think the rose idea is nice but undeserving since its only a 2nd date.....and she doesnt want to be inconviencend (sp) by carrying the damm thing lol.......girls your thoughts on that ? If you pick her up, she can put it in a vase at the house. Or she could just leave it in the car until she gets home.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I think "rules" are just "common-sense guidelines" that aren't always 100% ironclad, but very safe bets. I agree. "rules" is a bad word
Pyro Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 My BF brought me flowers on our second date. I was hooked. One compliment that I always seem to get is that I am thoughtful. Buying something small like flowers or candy after a first date really shows that you had a good time on the first date
catgirl1927 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Whenever someone says "rules" I think of that awful book from a few years ago.
Vertex Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah I agree with Riddler... nothing wrong with a small gift on a second/third date. It's not like you're smacking down a multi-diamond bracelet or anything early on in the game.
Pyro Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah I agree with Riddler... nothing wrong with a small gift on a second/third date. It's not like you're smacking down a multi-diamond bracelet or anything early on in the game. A samll gift shows that you are interested, but not desperate.
2020vision Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I love when a man gives me flowers! I don't care if its at the start of the date or the end. I think it all depends on if its the right man as well. I have gotten flowers from men before and thought it was cheesy or inappropriate, although when I was in love with my ex I never did. I guess my point is...that it does not matter when they are given, rather who they are given by. -2020
Author Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 alllllllllllllrighty then..........sex appeal.......flowers..........it is basically up to to the guy to make the 2nd date one hell of a date am i right? to show how much he is interestd in her?
2020vision Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Exactly! Now if the rest of the men out there could just think like that....
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