italian Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 What is it with females and wanting to be controlled(the men making the decisions for them)? After they get hurt, then they start making the decisions for themselves and blame the guy who hurt them. This whole relationship chemistry thing is all f***ed up! Why cant two people go out and make their own god damn decisions! Also, if the guy doesnt control.. the female starts controlling and the situation goes bizerk! Why can't two people just go out and the situation be 50/50? Not 90(male)/10(female)?? I'm a great charmer but if she doenst put effort on my needs(Im not talking about intercourse), shes just like every other female! Its easier for me to sleep with 50 million women in my life time then get married and have kids!
DazedandConfused33 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Hi SS - I read your post and understand your feelings. I recently had someone pull a "Houdini act" on me (I forget who said that but I love the phrase) and my gut reaction was to go after them and hold on tighter. It has taken me a significant amount of self-control to not text, call, or go to his house to have some kind of melodramatic confrontation just so that I can give him a piece of my mind and so that I can get the explanation of why he disappeared. I realize that if I do that then in a way I am acknowledging that he got to me when in reality, maybe we were just on two separate pages. If I've learned anything it is that people are always thinking two different things therefore their expectations are set differently. I think the best thing to do would be to shake him off a la Mariah Carey and go "oh well his lost". The more personal you make it the more it hurts and the harder it is to let go. "No bothers" is what one of my girlfriends says. Yeah it stings and even burns sometimes but he saved you the trouble of wasting your time with someone who might not have been as interested as you were. That beats being in a relationship with someone that isn't as into you as you are into them. Guys are funny creatures. I think they act first a lot of times and think later. Don't take that as an insult guys I just think it is one of the many differences between men and women. SS I would say focus on yourself and your goals and hopefully the right person will come along who is really into you, appreciates you and wants to stick around longer than 2 months.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 OH boy, another female bashing thread... like we needed any anymore. First of all, please do not generalize all women because one person you dated was a certain way. Maybe she was just a very insecure person and felt like she needed a strong man who could help her make decisions. Heres a suggestion, it is that hard for you to find a women to "put effort on your needs" then maybe you should just go sleep around.
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