LikkleMissConfused Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Hello people, Need some different view points on this please. My Background I'm Indian/Asian Hindu. Religous background and am modern however traditional values. In our culture it is not really accepted that an undivorced person marrying a divorced person especially as I am the youngest girl of the family. Anyway we have dated for two months, warm, caring, loving guy. Few weeks ago he closed off from me when I was asking him questions. Simply because my mum was going away and he was going to come over and spend time with me at my home. I knew there was something he wasn't telling me so I simply said "i'm letting you into my home and my life so I hope you have the decency to tell me the truth so I can go into this with open eyes" Well Sunday night he told me he was divorced and the 1/2 story! I am not bothered that he has history but that is my concern is it history?? He has always complimented me on my curly hair as I straighten it alot and I asked him what his ex's hair was like he said curly! Alarm bells started ringing. He has also said I remind him of his ex. WHat do you guys think? He has said to me that I'm not a replacement etc etc. HELP! I'm not sure if I want to get too deep with this guy but I do really like him and haven't felt like this for about 3 years.
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 He has also said I remind him of his ex. Runnnnnnnnnnn Anybody that thinks that let alone tells his girl that is wacked.. RED FLAG waving.. it is up to you to see it or ignore it.. The deeper you get with this guy the more you are going to find out that he is still hung up on his ex.. Give yourself a chance before you fall for him..
Craig Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Hello people, Need some different view points on this please. My Background I'm Indian/Asian Hindu. Religious background and am modern however traditional values. In our culture it is not really accepted that an undivorced person marrying a divorced person especially as I am the youngest girl of the family. Anyway we have dated for two months, warm, caring, loving guy. Few weeks ago he closed off from me when I was asking him questions. Simply because my mum was going away and he was going to come over and spend time with me at my home. I knew there was something he wasn't telling me so I simply said "i'm letting you into my home and my life so I hope you have the decency to tell me the truth so I can go into this with open eyes" Well Sunday night he told me he was divorced and the 1/2 story! I am not bothered that he has history but that is my concern is it history?? He has always complimented me on my curly hair as I straighten it alot and I asked him what his ex's hair was like he said curly! Alarm bells started ringing. He has also said I remind him of his ex. WHat do you guys think? He has said to me that I'm not a replacement etc etc. HELP! I'm not sure if I want to get too deep with this guy but I do really like him and haven't felt like this for about 3 years. If he knew what your choices are regarding the divorced/not divorced thing then his non-disclosure is not a good foundation for a relationship. If he wasn't aware of your beliefs then he gets a pass on that one. His complementing your curly hair could be just that he likes curly hair or that he likes your hair. The part where you remind him of his ex is disturbing. I think you should seek to understand what he means by that before making any decisions. If you are too much like his ex (in his eyes) then that is just, well, creepy.
Author LikkleMissConfused Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 I agree! Thanks for the posts. We spent another weekend together and frankly he just annoyed me. I think he is very immature. Like he was watching television in my room and came downstairs and left the tv on and put the tv on downstairs. Threw his wet towel on the floor, that drove me crazy. Friday I found out my mums in hospital and he just didn't know how to handle me as I was feeling a bit upset. Whats the point. I don't think this guy has got a clue and I think he needs to grow up!
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