iamtrying Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 hi all long story short, my MM had talked to the wife abt us and asked for a divorce.(i know its the truth as i had spoken to the wife before). however, he has this weird theory of only divorcing only when she agrees. of course we had major fights over this. well his mother has just pass away so he was back for the funeral so we were emailing via his private email account which he shares with his wife. (We are in a long distance relationship) of course she found out and she emailed me. she said that he has been lying to her and that he has told her that me and him are no longer in contact.said things like they are enjoyin their time together etc etc i told her sorry but i am really leaving him this time etc etc. we just say take care to each other and thats the end of our communication. she got me so piss thati shot off a few angry emails to MM. i told him that i dont know who to trust as both of them has a reason to lie to me. i told him that i am having a breakdown and i cant do this anymore. i told him to either get his butt to where i am or just please leave me alone. if he decides to do something concrete good and well. i told him if he still cant decide i am walking away. i told him once i walk away, please do not contact me anymore. if he still contact me i will forward all future communications between us to the wife. sorry for the long post.... really in a mess now.
MrsHellFire Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 im surprised you have such an easygoing relationship with the wife! the man is probably jerking everyone around here.
Jessie61 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 long story short, my MM had talked to the wife abt us and asked for a divorce.(i know its the truth as i had spoken to the wife before). however, he has this weird theory of only divorcing only when she agrees. Iamtrying, I am sorry that you are in such a mess at the moment and that you feel so low. But what your MM says is rubbish. Isn't the sad truth that it takes two people to start a relationship, but it only takes one to end it...? In other words, if he really wanted to leave his W, he would not need her consent to do it...? I get the impression that your MM is lying to both you and his W. Why? To keep this options open for as long as possible. To have two women in his life or to postpone having to make a final decision for as long as possible. I don't know what his reasons are. But I do think that he is being totally unfair to both you and his W. By walking away, you ARE doing the right thing for yourself. If he really wants you, he will come after you. If he doesn't, then you are better off without him. You deserve better! Don't ever forget that!!! OK?
Author iamtrying Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 im surprised you have such an easygoing relationship with the wife! the man is probably jerking everyone around here. yea... no nasty was involve all along between me n her as she knew that MM lied to me and told me he was divorced. this was not the first contact i had with her and we were always civil to each other.
Author iamtrying Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 Iamtrying, I am sorry that you are in such a mess at the moment and that you feel so low. But what your MM says is rubbish. Isn't the sad truth that it takes two people to start a relationship, but it only takes one to end it...? In other words, if he really wanted to leave his W, he would not need her consent to do it...? I get the impression that your MM is lying to both you and his W. Why? To keep this options open for as long as possible. To have two women in his life or to postpone having to make a final decision for as long as possible. I don't know what his reasons are. But I do think that he is being totally unfair to both you and his W. By walking away, you ARE doing the right thing for yourself. If he really wants you, he will come after you. If he doesn't, then you are better off without him. You deserve better! Don't ever forget that!!! OK? thanks for the suppport and i absolutely agree with you. i had sent off another nasty email to him telling him to stay the F@*% out of my life. i really love him a lot but as everybody says, i need to love myself more....
zarathustra Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 thanks for the suppport and i absolutely agree with you. i had sent off another nasty email to him telling him to stay the F@*% out of my life. i really love him a lot but as everybody says, i need to love myself more.... Trying, I know its hard but you did what you need to in order to keep your sanity. Trust me. I work with my xMM and every day is a freaking trial. Just focus on healing from this. It doesn't matter who's telling the truth now... It doesn't matter who's lying because if he wanted to be with you, then he would be with you. When he decides that, then you can negotiate. Good luck and we're here for you! Hugs.
Author iamtrying Posted June 7, 2006 Author Posted June 7, 2006 thanks all. its really hard and its the first time that i had ever been so mean to anyone. it just shows how much i had been through to reach this stage. i had never ever used the F word on anybody before in my life. i just hope i had the strength to do what i say i will do.
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