Guest Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Hi, I was wondering do older men still get shy towards women they are interested in, or is it a phase that is outgrown in teen years? Not sure if this is a stupid question but i'm wondering about this. Also what is the likelyhood that an older man would go for a younger woman (younger as in 15 yrs younger)? I've been attracted to a co-worker (we work in a large store) and i would like to get a feel of what my chances are (i'm in my early 20's he looks to be late 30's possibly even early 40's), i know nothing about him, and would at least like to be friends first. Would an older man feel awkward if a younger woman approached him? Anyway any opinions are greatly appreciated, thanks!
Tinman Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Hi, I was wondering do older men still get shy towards women they are interested in, or is it a phase that is outgrown in teen years? Not sure if this is a stupid question but i'm wondering about this. Also what is the likelyhood that an older man would go for a younger woman (younger as in 15 yrs younger)? I've been attracted to a co-worker (we work in a large store) and i would like to get a feel of what my chances are (i'm in my early 20's he looks to be late 30's possibly even early 40's), i know nothing about him, and would at least like to be friends first. Would an older man feel awkward if a younger woman approached him? Anyway any opinions are greatly appreciated, thanks! Yes, he could very well be shy. People tend to get better at coping as they get older but it's not like it necessarily goes away. Second possibility, he's not exactly shy but he might be worried about coming across as a dirty old man. Heck, he might be a bit stand-offish because he's thinking, "She's 15 years younger then me, she couldn't possibly be attracted." The answer to your second question, is also yes. It would not be surprising that he might be attracted to a younger woman. Either way it sounds like your instincts are good. Get to know him better and you should get a sense as to whether or not you're compatable. The age-gap may be an issue but it's not necessarily an unsurmountable one.
BrandonBP Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 Heck, he might be a bit stand-offish because he's thinking, "She's 15 years younger then me, she couldn't possibly be attracted." I would also say that this is likely. I know if some 20 year old acted like she had the hots for me, I'd constantly be asking myself, "Why in the hell would a young hot girl like her have the hots for me?"
Tinman Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I would also say that this is likely. I know if some 20 year old acted like she had the hots for me, I'd constantly be asking myself, "Why in the hell would a young hot girl like her have the hots for me?" Exactly. If she were flirting heavily I'd imagine the first first instinct would probably be that we was just having some fun with a "safe" target. If she were direct, well then there would be that two-second pause to look for the candid camera operator. Back to the OP. If he's shy, yes there might be an awkward moment or two when he's trying to gauge exactly where you're coming from and the age difference could exacerbate that.
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