PandaEyes Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 I have just started dating a guy who I really, really like. I have never met someone who I feel so comfortable with and so attracted to at the same time, it's really exciting. Anyway, I have been single for ages and am taking this very slowly. We have so far been out about 5 times (once a week) and just had sex for the first time last week. My problem is this - I got a brazilian 2 weeks ago and although it was all good last weekend, it has started to grow back now and developed into a bit of a rash - this is going to last until I get my next wax in 2 weeks' time. I feel extremely uncomfortable about it and do not want him to see it. But I am also too embarresed to explain, next time I see him, why I had sex last week and am all of a sudden frigid (!). I get so horny around him also, I don't trust myself not to lead him down that path if I saw him again. I think the safest bet is to just not see him for 2 weeks. I actually wouldn't mind some time off to visit my family, get some overdue work done etc etc. I just don't know how to tell him I won't be able to see him for 2 weeks? I don't want him to think I'm not keen. Also, I want the r'ship to progress and don't know if not seeing each other for 2 weeks will make it a bit weird next time we catch up. What do you think? Any advice would be much appreciated!!
Agent M Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 Can you get it redone before the 2 weeks? Have you called the place you got it done at to see what they recommend? Could you be honest with him? Who knows, he might not care.
Sapiens Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 My problem is this - I got a brazilian 2 weeks ago and although it was all good last weekend, it has started to grow back now and developed into a bit of a rash - this is going to last until I get my next wax in 2 weeks' time. I feel extremely uncomfortable about it and do not want him to see it. But I am also too embarresed to explain, next time I see him, why I had sex last week and am all of a sudden frigid (!). I get so horny around him also, I don't trust myself not to lead him down that path if I saw him again. LOL, is this the issues that worry women? Damn, no wonder we as men do not understand you. As a man I can tell you this, don't stop seeing him because of this, tell him the truth and you will laugh about it. Guys know women put themselves thru a lot of crap to stay beautiful, then let him know what you go through to look good for him. I really can't believe stuff like this worries females, the guy is just glad he is getting some. -Sapiens
beautifulnpink22 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Yea I agree, I think that you should tell him the truth. What's the worst thing that can happen? Because if you don't tell him and choose to not see him for two weeks he's going to wonder what happened, when all of that can be resolved by just telling him.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 LOL, is this the issues that worry women? Damn, no wonder we as men do not understand you. As a man I can tell you this, don't stop seeing him because of this, tell him the truth and you will laugh about it. Guys know women put themselves thru a lot of crap to stay beautiful, then let him know what you go through to look good for him. I really can't believe stuff like this worries females, the guy is just glad he is getting some. -Sapiens I totally agree. I remember once i had the opposite problem. I was growing my bush out toget it waxed, and I had hooked up w/one of the hottest men I had ever been with. Omg he was georgeous, and I kept putting sex off because i was soooo embarrassed about my bush (since I have been clean shaven since I was like 15) I finally just explained it to him thinking he'd be grossed out, and he told me it was no big deal to him and he wanted me so bad.... talk about a turn on to hear that!!! Just tell him, no need to ruin a good thing hun! And congrats on finding such an awesome guy!!
cliffistheman Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 You should definately just tell him the truth - but tell him like this " Hey - guess what? When I went Brazilian ...you know - shaved down there... I've been using this powder(or lotion) and I got an allergic reaction *giggle* ..and it's been hurting - so I hope you don't think I've been holding back from you because of anything else. I'm waiting for the redness to go away. .....Can I suck your @#@#? " If you be real - he'll appreciate the fact that you can be open with him. You should get the rash checked out if it doesn't go away after three days. When the hair grows back - it will itch.
Pantero Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 The same thing happened with one of my ex's a loooong time ago. She was honest about it, and I appreciated it and understood. I'd say be honest and tell him. If he has a problem with it, then tell him to eat sh-t and go to H-ll.
johan Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Just make a quick trip to a costume shop for some of that glue. Do some strategic trimming off the cat, and for a few bucks he need never know anything at all.
Jools Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 He really shouldn't mind, it's not like you've got a rash through an STD or anything. It's just coz of u getting waxed. I would personally have NO problem whatsoever with it.
ronnieromance Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Without eyeballing the implicated irritqation, it's hard to say. But it reminds me of a story: My ex-WebDate girlfriend shaved. BAld. Looked clean and sleek and was nice when we got sweaty. Until 3days in. I remember one day, she was on top of me, rubbing my stuff on her non-muff. Painful isn't the word. Fellas, ever rubbed 180 grit sandpaper on the head of your dick? Me either. But I bet it doesn't feel that much different. -R-
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Without eyeballing the implicated irritqation, it's hard to say. But it reminds me of a story: My ex-WebDate girlfriend shaved. BAld. Looked clean and sleek and was nice when we got sweaty. Until 3days in. I remember one day, she was on top of me, rubbing my stuff on her non-muff. Painful isn't the word. Fellas, ever rubbed 180 grit sandpaper on the head of your dick? Me either. But I bet it doesn't feel that much different. -R- Something similar hapened the other day to me and SO. Poor baby. I had no idea it was hurting him, I guess he did'nt either until the next day
ronnieromance Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Sorry for him, but glad I'm not the only one. I've all but stopped telling this story because guys either A. only have sex with the most freshly shaven and waxed women, or B. They're f***ing liars -R-
alphamale Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 What do you think? Any advice would be much appreciated!! get your next appointment moved up...
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 Sorry for him, but glad I'm not the only one. I've all but stopped telling this story because guys either A. only have sex with the most freshly shaven and waxed women, or B. They're f***ing liars -R- Haha well no ronnie, you are not the only one Its happened to me too a time or 2. not as bad, but it gets kinda raw and itchy. I still have yet to understand why hair is there in the first place! It just gets all up in the way
2020vision Posted June 7, 2006 Posted June 7, 2006 so comfortable with and so attracted to at the same time, it's really exciting. While it is early in the relationship...if you really are comfortable with him, telling him the situation sparing him all the gory details, he should understand this. No need to hide anything. In my experience that only causes more problems and causes you to stress. I think it would be a little absurd to not see him just because of waxing problems.
Buttaflyy Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 LOL, is this the issues that worry women? Damn, no wonder we as men do not understand you. As a man I can tell you this, don't stop seeing him because of this, tell him the truth and you will laugh about it. Guys know women put themselves thru a lot of crap to stay beautiful, then let him know what you go through to look good for him. I really can't believe stuff like this worries females, the guy is just glad he is getting some. -Sapiens Good to hear Sapiens! But do u think she should mention the word rash when explaining things to him? Men know and understand some things we women go thru, but I'd be cautious of using certain words and phrases. You guys don't take well to some of em.
DarkDwarf Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 LOL, is this the issues that worry women? Damn, no wonder we as men do not understand you. As a man I can tell you this, don't stop seeing him because of this, tell him the truth and you will laugh about it. Guys know women put themselves thru a lot of crap to stay beautiful, then let him know what you go through to look good for him. I really can't believe stuff like this worries females, the guy is just glad he is getting some. -Sapiens Haha. Seriosly. Just tell him.
Stunner Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 Be confident, it won't matter to him. You could even joke about it to lighten the moment for you. Be honest, that way you don't miss out while you are waiting for the next appt. BTW, you are a damn brave woman!!!
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