Cuao Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 MAYBE this is all in my head. Maybe this is normal. Or maybe I just need help! I have been with my current bf since Feb of this year. We were together for 5 mths last year, but he ended things because of my continued 'emotional involvment' with my ex-bf of 5 yrs (who cheated on me and thus I ended things). My current bf and I took some time apart. Around Dec (a month of NC after our breakup) he came back telling me his feelings for me had 'grown deeper' and wanting to 'work things out'. From then till Feb... during that time I completely stopped talking to my ex-bf, and realized how much I truly cared about my current bf. In Feb, we made it official again. We're great friends, we talk, we laugh, we joke, we communicate well, we have great sex... this rel'ship is 10x better than it was with my ex. So what's the problem?: I don't think I'm 'in love' with him. And I don't know if this is normal at this stage, or if I should be running for the hills. My history: I loved and was IN LOVE with my cheater ex-bf of 5 yrs. We said ILU pretty much from Day 1, and same thing w the ex-ex-bf before him. So pretty much as far as I can remember I have alwaybs been 'in love' in a rel'ship, and said the words. His history: he's been in love too, but not with his last ex-gf of 2 yrs (tho he's tried to backtrack and sugarcoat and said he loved her in his 'own way' even though he never told her ILU). It really freaked me out that he could be with someone for TWO WHOLE YEARS... 'loving' but not being IN love with the person. She loved him, and they eventually ended things because it was going nowhere. He tht the feelings would I dunno, grow with time? Crazy. More than he knows... it really really bothers me that he was not in love with his last ex-gf. Because I feel like -> if he didn't love her, he prolly won't love me? CRAZY and I know that's MY issue to deal with so I don't bring it up to him at all. But what worries me even more is that I'm not feeling this head over heels crazy in love feeling like I did with my last ex-bf. My feelings for him are strong but I don't think I would call it 'in love' because I don't feel like how I did with my last ex-bf, feel me? Should that 'in love' feeling feel or be the same, 24/7, regardless of the person? Or is that crazy? Please help. I'm so confused because I don't know what I'm supposed to feel. C.
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