unsafe Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 I have been with my guy for a little over a month. We lived together as "just roommates" for the past 8 months and we could no longer just be friends we talked and talked about how it would be if it didn't work out. But we both want this so we are going for it. The past weekend we had an issue. he said he didn't know what he wanted because he is scared of commitment. But he wants to be with me and so far so good. We decided to stay together because thats what we both want. I went to dinner with his family and they know about us now. They love me or so they say. Again he is 28 and he has dated one girl besided me and that was for about 2 or 3 months. It didnt' work out. I know he looks at me way different then he looked at her. But I'm still scared. Especially since he had this episode of not knowing what to do. But in the end he realized he wants to still be with me. He isn't use to being in a relationship and said he isn't good at it. Which I think he is great at it, because we are great together. I think he is just scared. I mean he is always next to me holding my hand, kissing me, laying with me. Doing most things together. I am doing my best not to rush or except anything from this. I mean whatever happens happens. But I really like him. I was crushed when I thought it would be over. But in my heart I want this. And I think he wants it too but I am not him. Is there anything I can do to help me since he doesn't know, and is scared? I am hoping that as time goes by we will fall in love and the fear will fade. But how likely is that?
MarnieGirl Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 it sounds a little like this relationship is a bit forced, like you're both pushing it because you want to want to be together. in other news, his age is no big deal. i don't know many guys who have many serious relationships before 28, usually at least one, but sometimes you can't really control the age you are when you meet the right, person, now can you?
Author unsafe Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 What do you mean forced? No one is forcing anyone? I told him if he didn't want this its ok, but we should end it now before we get to serious and one of us gets really hurt. He said he doesn't want to end it. That he wants to be with me he is just scared. I asked scared of what? And he said he doesn't know. He said he doesn't mind being alone but being with me makes him feel good. I don't think it sounds like we are forcing anything. I think we want to be together he is just nervous or scared because it is his friend relationship. NO? And as for the age and not dating anyone you are right you can't judge it. But I think he is. Like he think he is 28 this might be it and it scares him. He waited so long to be with someone and he finally is with me and maybe this is the one..and thats it. Scary thought for man don't you think? I am trying to take it day by day. But for knowing him for 8 months and now being together for over a month, I like him alot.
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