I feel very bad, told the wife to lay off....

[johhny traintrack]

I feel very very bad about a comment i made.

 

me and my wife have been married for about 6 months,

been together 7 years...We're kinda one of those mushy

couples who are always telling each other they love each other,

always respectful to each other, TONS of cuddling and

affection. I LOVE it. True, i have struggled with public displays

of affection because i'm kind of a shy guy, and My wife is More of

the one who is constantly calling me Mr. Beautiful, You're so handsome,

your the best thing, etc. I constantly tell her i love her, do things

for her, leave her love notes, etc.

 

Anyway, last night we went to dinner with her folks

and she has the tendency to thank me a bit too much for

the things i do sometimes...Since i went out of my way to run back

to the car for her mom's purse, wife was thanking me SOoooo much and saying constantly over the course of the dinner "isn't he the

greatest, isn't he the sweetest, isn't he the best husband a girl

could ever ask for?"....And as much as it's cute to hear that stuff,

i got uncomfortable and embarassed a bit and asked her to kinda

stop, in a joking way only because she was saying it so so so much

and i felt like the whole dinner she talked about me and then Mom

chimed in about me and the other guests at the table, well, i just felt

like the focus was all of me and it bugged me.

...But that offended her greatly when i teased her about it, so she didn;'t talk to me the rest of the night and got quiet kinda aloof with me

(she does that when she's mad)

 

I really don't mind it, she's always spoke her mind about how she

feels about me and so have i about her, but she does it wayyyy

more than i. But i love it, i don't mind it. Sometimes it can get

a little overwhelming to the point of uncomfortableness and i

feel bad saying anything, but generally it's just normal. I guess

i just feel overwhelmed.

 

Later on last night i just apologized and said i was just uncomfortable

and that i feel like sometimes it's too much and she cried and

just said stuff like "fine i won't ever say anything again"..."that's

what you want, right?" ... It's a sensitive situation, i realize.

 

UGH, i feel bad, but what am i to do? We are kinda in a weird

stressful mood right now, i kissed her goodbye this morning and

we hugged, but i want to say something else tonight to kinda smooth things out, ANY SUGGESTIONS??? I feel like a big heel.

[Love Hurts]

How sweet and beautiful love is.................. your in it.

 

What a blessing to be in that place. I was your wife.....................

I couldn't tell my husband... enough,

how beautiful he was and how much I loved him.

 

We were the very loving mushy sweet cuddle couple...

We used to get our coffee together... I would put two mugs on the counter, he poured the coffee, I poured the cream, he spooned in sugar and stirred. We would take our coffee to the deck and look at the day.

What beautiful days we had. I was so complimentary of him.

 

My parents particularly my father liked him and

encouraged his being in the family.

My you struck a cord with me today.

 

Listen,,,,, you two are in love... Do you know how RARE love is?

Very difficult to actually love your mate,

at times many simply just tolerate their partner to get through

another day.

 

You have real gold in life.... her heart is simply bursting love,

respect and pride for you.

You cannot have love without a foundation of respect first.

Only with respect first can love grow. She has more...

she has pride that you are by her side.

 

Ok so your shy,,,, get over it................. allow her

to shower you with love.... she is in it.

It is all down hill from the place you are in.........

Life does not get better from there.

 

Read some of the posts on here and realize............... what a special place you are in.

 

Wishes...................

I wish I could have what I no longer do.

Yet, this day I wake and I know we are through.

What we had is just a memorie, warmth now cold.

No stories to tell when we grow old.

Alone too soon to gaze upon the moon.

A tear in my eye, again for you I cry.

One deep breath, let me shrug this of death.

I know where I was, I know where I am,

With or without you, I must, I know I can.

God has a greater plan.

 

PDS

 

God Bless ......... enjoy what you have for those of us that no longer do. It is so nice to know someone is holding on and more than that..

in true love.............................................. How Sweet It Is

[whichwayisup]

Later on last night i just apologized and said i was just uncomfortable

and that i feel like sometimes it's too much and she cried and

just said stuff like "fine i won't ever say anything again"..."that's

what you want, right?" ... It's a sensitive situation, i realize.

 

UGH, i feel bad, but what am i to do? We are kinda in a weird

stressful mood right now, i kissed her goodbye this morning and

we hugged, but i want to say something else tonight to kinda smooth things out, ANY SUGGESTIONS??? I feel like a big heel.

 

This is now her problem and she handled it really poorly by saying "fine, I won't ever say anything again." To be honest, I think that's really immature and she said that out of spite without thinking. Seems too, she hasn't even TRIED to understand that it's flattering to hear how wonderful she thinks you are for going to get her mom's purse from the car, but saying it over and over again, was TOO much. I got irritated just reading that. Compliments are great, but she's gone overboard.

 

Bring her home some flowers, and just tell her that you love how verbally affectionate she is, but sometimes - In public, maybe it would be better to tone it down abit and just realize that it's too much at times. Then tell her you love her.

[VegasFan]

My wife is More of

the one who is constantly calling me Mr. Beautiful, You're so handsome,

your the best thing, etc.

 

Dang, I wish I had your problems...

[johhny traintrack]

I realize we have a rare relationship. And i believe

it an awesome gift that we both found each other.

I really love her a lot.

 

We also hardly ever argue or fight and when

we do, it's about some silly and there's never any name-calling

or mean/hurtful things said.

 

Anyway, I hear what you're all saying. I DO feel like it's really

excessive at times, like i can't keep up with her love towards me

in her comments and all the things she says and i feel like i don't

say it enough or do enough, when i do and say Tons.

 

But Part of me feels like i made a major mistake and took her love

for granted. She just loves me and she loves saying it. So

what's my problem?

 

I Talked to her on the phone earlier and apologized and she just

said that i made her feel stupid for saying so much in front of

everyone. I Agree, i could have handled it better, but i was just

overwhelmed and embarrased and whatnot. It kills me that i feel

like i hurt her feelings bad, since she cried a lot over it.

 

Anyway, thanks all for the comments. I'm going to work on my own

internal fears and problems...If i wasn't so bad with receiving

compliments, because of my own lo-self confidence, this probably

wouldn;t have happened.

[typical]

I feel like a big heel.

 

:lmao:

[Vertex]

*green with envy*

[quankanne]

explain very gently to her that you do enjoy her compliments, but sometimes when she constantly does that in front of other people, it makes you feel uncomfortable. Not because it's her or her family saying it, but because (fill in the blank).

 

I get very uncomfortable when my husband overdoes the "hey, guess what quank got/did/said" because I grew up in a family where my dad and his siblings always tried to outdo each other and the bragging got to where I hated it. So when DH overdoes the compliments it's like a flashback to those days, and I've had to tell him to please not do that, and my reason why I don't like that kind of stuff. And he was okay with it once I explained why. Your wife also needs to understand why you feel the way you do about her excessive compliments to help her not do it so much in front of you.