SmittenSexyKitten Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 At lunch on Friday he called me to see what time I would be at his house for the weekend. He blew kisses as he got off the phone... I was a bit cold because we had a fight on Thursday night over nothing...he had a bad day and I had a bad day and we were snappish with each other. Thursday night's fight lasted about 30 min....nothing major. On Friday I was still upset because I thought he was wrong to take his bad day out on me...so I told him that I was still upset. Heated fight ensued...and he says I'm sick of arguing with you it's over. He becomes cold and keeps repeating its over its over...over and over and over again. He was furious.....We have been getting along great. We have been together for 10 months...only fought on one topic the whole time that we have been together...his ex gf. (who by the way sends me an email when she sees that he changed his myspace page from 'in a relationship' to 'single' and her email says "Good riddance bitch...it's only a week or two before I have your man") His ex has been on a campaign to break us up...he asked me to ignore her and that she could never come between us. AND the break up fight was not about her....it was over...nothing... He is angry...furious...he had a bad week,,,,I had a bad week and he is upset that we fought. But ... We went from being in love...lovey dovey and within 24 hours it's over? When I called on Saturday to beg him to not say things he would regret...he said it was over and not to call him or I would ruin my chances of ever being back together with him. He says it is all my fault. That I take him at his word a little bit too literally...so he has to watch what he says. Just a bunch of stuff that didn't make any sense... If he is just mad...how long will it take him to cool off... If he isn't just mad...how did this just come out of the blue...believe me there were NO signs...NONE....(Last fight about the ex gf was 3 mos ago) I am so devastated... I want to call him I want to go over and just hug him and find out what is wrong I love him... I'm scared what do I do?
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 He is angry...furious...he had a bad week,,,,I had a bad week and he is upset that we fought. But ... We went from being in love...lovey dovey and within 24 hours it's over? When I called on Saturday to beg him to not say things he would regret...he said it was over and not to call him or I would ruin my chances of ever being back together with him. I want to call him I want to go over and just hug him and find out what is wrong I love him... I'm scared what do I do? Hi Smitten Kitten. What I would do if I were you is realize it's over. I wouldn't call him and risk my pride for such a guy. Hardly worth it. Who is he to tell you what you need to do if you're to ever be with him again?? It is he who should be trying hard to get you back, because when he said it's over, he should have seen it would be HIS loss, not yours! Hold your head up high, okay? And no matter what, don't call him.
tearful_soul22 Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 the guy seems to have some major issues. just because he had a bad day doesn't mean he can just take it all out on you for no reason. stop letting him control you and your feelings. respect yourself and let him wallow in his own superflous ego. take good care and good luck to you!
ash8752 Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 Well, that all sucks. I hate that feeling. Being helpless when you are so in love, I really feel your pain. But coming from someone who doesnt know you from a hole in the wall heres my advice: He said dont call or you two wont get back together. Dont call. And not because it is what he said, but because you are way better than an ass who will say something like that to you. If he loved you or respected you he would give you a time zone like 'Give me a few days to be on my own, we'll talk" or "We'll be ok, i need a little time alone." Something. HE is probably scared that if he doesnt leave it open he'll lose you so he keeps you thinking there is still a chance. Don't let him have that power over you. You call the shots. WHy would you want to be with someone who can run so hot and cold so quickly. You deserve someone more stable and who cares enough to communicate. As for the ex...she sucks and they sound like they could be perfect together seeing as they are both childish. Good luck...there are good guys out there and you deserve one.
Stunner Posted June 10, 2006 Posted June 10, 2006 So sorry you are going through this but I believe he is trying to keep one up on you by acting this way. Firstly, when someone loves you they do not take their bad week out on you. If he had realized that this was a mistake, as he should have, he would have been man enough to apologize for his mistake and move on. I would consider yourself LUCKY that he called it quits and leave it alone....this is only one incident of many that would likely follow.
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