blue636 Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 Long story short: My girlfriend broke up with me. Her family has been causing her a lot of undue stress and it was finally beginning to get to her. She left home on Friday (June 2) morning to visit her best friend up north who lives 3 hours away. She told me she'd be back today and that it definitely had nothing to do with our relationship. I've heard this all before... Today I received a text message from her effectively ending our relationship. We talked on the phone, she told me she was on her way back home, and 30 minutes later I received the text. She told me that she feels like she was in a major jam. Her family life had been putting serious stress on her and ultimately on our relationship. Indeed, both of us were hurting because of her parents. Her mothe even admitted to needing help (clinically depressed). Because her home conflict ultimately lead to conflict in our relationship, she decided to end it. She told me she felt that it was stressing me out too much and making me sick (which is essentially true) and that it was doing the same to her. She always told me she imagined and planned for a future with me. We even talked about marriage once in a while. She told me she loves me unconditionally (and I believe she still does) and that it's virtually impossible to live without me. I'm sure you can all imagine what else she's said as it's not hard to see where I'm going with this. In the end she told me she doesn't want to let go. She told me the reason she was breaking up via text messaging was because hearing my voice would stimulate her selfishness: she would NOT want to let me go. Therefore, she did it with a text. Personally, I'd like to remain with her and continue our relationship. I don't want this break up and it was truly unexpected. I'm divorced and I'd like to think I would've seen the signs. At any rate, what do I do from here? I know the "No Contact" rule is a very popular one, but what if she contacts me via e-mail or text and says it was a mistake and she wants to get back together? Or what if she contacts me just to ask how things are going? What if she's trying to be nice and feel me out? Any thoughts?
Author blue636 Posted June 4, 2006 Author Posted June 4, 2006 By the way, read her last blog entry... (Sunday, June 04, 2006) http://chemilie.blogspot.com
Author blue636 Posted June 4, 2006 Author Posted June 4, 2006 I don't know why she keeps sending me e-mails and texts telling me that she loves me and that she doesn't know what to do.
porkchop2236 Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 You know blue, this is a hard one. She obviously still loves you and would like to be with you. She obviously doesn't want to hurt you because she has problems. But that's just the thing...she has problems. If you are willing to make her problems your problems, then go for it. Let her know you don't mind helping her with her problems. Let her know how you feel. That you are there for her and want to make things work out. Let her know that she can take some time to think about it and to get back to you and let you know either way. If she still doesn't want to be with you, I'm sorry but I would stop trying. You have to let her know how you feel and put it out there, and if she still persists on staying apart, I'm afraid there's nothing you can do to change her mind right now. I am not trying to build up false hope but if she really loves you like she claims to (as seen in her blog), I think she will realize what a big mistake she is making. Good luck, and I hope everything works out.
Love Hurts Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 You know the rule... If you are up for the cat and mouse game... If your up for a few more hits... in hope: she will return...the two of you having a solid relationship from here on out. Go for it... sometimes it is exactly what you need for closure ... We are all different.... some need to know it is really over even though love is no where in sight..... It's ok... it's your way to deal. Hope is a good thing.. also a crusher. Be prepared in advance... for what you don't want. Some females do test the waters .... They want to see what you are made out of.... People are not cut outs, everyone has issues and good reasons as to their behavior. This one is tricky.... your relationship could kick up again.... Just be ready for the worst .. and answer the phone. Good luck
Author blue636 Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 Well, she said she couldn't bring herself to going through with it. She did come back, but now there are just a whole new set of problems: Insane parents.
Author blue636 Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 I hope you are Marc??????????? Well, this is a confusing post.
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