Mz. Pixie Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Not necessarily. I know an model-type 27 year old who's boyfriend is a 22-year who works at a tire store - although he does use steroids to pump out his physique. So how do I identify my "target area"? I have a 4 year degree and a stable job. I'm physically fit but skinny, and I don't have the Brad Pitt or Gearge Clooney look. I usually don't go after model types. Usually they are women who are femiel versions of me: college educated, physically fit and medium attractiveness. People told me was "too picky" so a couple of years ago I lowered my standards to essentially anyone who owned a vagina and showed some interest. I did get more dates & sex that year, but it was mostly overweight single moms who were boring to hang out with, and one married women who was separated from her husband. This did not seem like an improvement to me, so it's back to the slim pickings of those who look like good LTR prosoects to me but are not in serious relationships. This is fine when it's one person and you're 22, but when you're 32 and it's happened over and over this gets old. The above example may be the exception rather than the norm. There's something about him that's appealing for her right now- even if it's only to piss her parents off. You're 32 and this happens to you in every relationship?? There should be some self examination going on. Perhaps your narrowing your field of prospect by where you hang out- where you meet women- your insistance that they have a college degree?? Perhaps you're like my husband?? He's handsome, owned his own home, sweet, romantic, loving, good in bed, has a stable job but yet he had a hard time finding women who were quality prospects until he met me! His wife had an affair for a year before she left him for the OM- she was pregnant before their divorce was final with OM's baby. He dated some women in between that that weren't exactly right for him and it didn't work out. The most serious relationship before me was a woman who was only after him because he had some money. She still owes him a ton. He finally got smart on that one and then later he met me. He also invested in some personal counseling with a marriage counselor (alone) because he wanted to find out if it was him or if it was her that had the problem. He got a clean mental bill of health from the counselor. One problem he ran up on is that he's a teacher- and he doesn't make six figures obviously. That was a big turn off to women in his age bracket- although he's meant to be a teacher. Not every single mom is overweight, boring and could be called "anything with a vagina". Perhaps statements like that are a bit of a turnoff for some women?? I have said many times that there are still great guys left out there- because I found mine at 37. It just means that you have to change things up sometimes to meet different people. I met my husband at Starbucks- and I would have NEVER met him at any other time or place in my life where we would have ended up together and happily married. It was just meant to be that we met on that date and at that time in both of our lives.
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